I'm a husband. My wife is 30 mths into the fight of secondary. Liver, bones and spine. For the last 12 months, I feel as if whatever I say, do, or find things in desperation, to ease or help her in any way, they are thrown aside.
I've come to a point where I cannot be bothered anymore.
Hi Damien666 welcome to the forum and I am so sorry to hear about how you are feeling, that must be very difficult for you and not an easy one to resolve quickly either, unfortunately.
It must be so difficult for you watching all this happen for someone that you love dearly and it sounds like your wife has maybe shut herself off thinking maybe that she is protecting you in some way when in fact it is having the opposite effect. Please dont give up because despite what is going on she does really need you now more than ever.
Is there any opportunity for you both to sit down and have a chat and discuss how all this is making you feel? There are a couple of threads on here where you may like to continue to chat with other carers and if that is something that you want let me know and Ill insert the link for you . xx
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