Body image post mastectomy

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Hi all. I'm after some advice, or things that have worked for you. My daughter in law had an aggressive round of chemos before her mastectomy last July. That and the immunotherapy have battered her to a very low level. She has always had low self image - although she is so beautiful - but now it is so bad that I dont know what to do to help.

I've tried all the usual, listening, trying to understand, telling her how loved she is and that she is beautiful, and strong and amazing but nothing seems to be helping. Im at my wits end. 

Any help so gratefully received x

  • Hi, do you think she might come on here to chat, I did have counselling though my work before my operations. And I have said yes to the "someone like me" support group. This has been amazing, her breast cancer nurse or McMillan can refer her. In Rotherham I go to a weekly group called talk cancer, I find this really helpful because I can talk openly with people going through this, and I'm not worried I will be upsetting anyone personal to me, I can just be honest. Cancer care have some great centers all over the country. My daughter is away from me in York and even if she needs support coping with what I'm going through she can pop in there centre for a chat. I wish you all the best. Xxxxx

  • Hello Florence. Macmillan themselves are the first port of call. They will tell you what help is available in your area regards counselling and support groups. There are also different charities and organisations that can provide support. Eg. Looking Good Feeling Great is one of them.

    The process of BC is brutal at times and where you end up depends to some extent where you start. There is support out there you just need to encourage her and the family to get it. 

    You are heading in the right direction.  I'm sure your daughter in law will move on with your love and support and the support of your family.

    Three times! What did I do?