9 months on

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I just wanted to post on here and share if anyone and I’m sure their is has had same experience

I feel like 9 months on from my diagnosis I should be getting back to my normal like or ‘the new normal’ as they say

I had stage 1, lumpectomy and radiotherapy which finished in April but I have so much worry and anxiety with everything health related. I had some anxiety before not like this my health anxiety is through the roof. I really hope this does get better. I have had some CBT & support as also had a difficult year with 2 family bereavements too

I don’t think my it’s helped as I had a good recovery from the surgery and radiotherapy no issues but then after I started hormone therapy I had side effects from this and also ended up with trochanteric bursitis in my both hips and had steroid injections. This thankfully has subsided but had for 3-4 months unable to lay or sit without being uncomfortable it was a nightmare. They have changed my medication now

I always seen to get rid of 1 thing then something else seems to start and again my brain starts racing thinking the worse!

Ive had palpitations and eptopics since all of this as well and had so many tests which were normal thankfully but still feel them every day

I keep telling myself to try move on but most days have a tear and just want my old self back

I know people re going through so much on here and this is not a sympathy post sometimes I think it’s good to talk or write your feelings down

Thank you ️

AR66 3 hours ago

Im like you, had lumpectomy July 2025, radiotherapy September 2025 and sailed through it all, but, now feel fatigued and breast tender. Because I was doing so well I thought I was so lucky with no ill effects. I think now the nerves are all healing in my breast I can feel things I couldn’t before ( it’s not an infection) also I think that when your going through all the hospital visits and treatment your like a hamster on a wheel you just keep going. Now it’s all done you collapse.

Im not on any medication as I had triple negative which there is no tablets for.

Like you I want the old me back, but it’s early days, even for you, everything you read says it can take months or longer.

take care x

Silverberg 2 hours ago in reply to AR66

Hi both.

I know that feeling well. I think it is one of the myths of life that when it's over you feel like your old self. Like the one you forget about the pain of childbirth once you have the baby in your arms. Like childbirth your body is never the same as it was. We are naive I suppose to expect it to be.

Most of us get through the trauma of diagnosis , surgery and treatment. We go through with gritted teeth and reassure friends and family we are "Fine". P Dr pole around me usually arrive with a cup of coffee and a couple of paracetamol these days if I say I'm fine. Eventually though the process hits us. It took 5 years to hit me. When I realised I wouldn't be back to my pre cancer self but I would become a new self.

Take a deep breath. Tell someone how you feel and start to acknowledge the new you. someone who is actually stronger in many ways.I

Good luck and hugs.

Three times! What did I do?

Silverberg 2 hours ago in reply to Silverberg

P.S. Lots of mistakes in that. I've just woken from my post chemo nap.

Three times! What did I do?

HappyFeet1 1 hour ago in reply to Silverberg

Hi Warrior52

I am many years down the line now (diagnosis in autumn 2018). I think your feelings are echoed in many of us. I definitely didn’t ’bounce back’ to my old self, whoever she actually was, and was more anxious a year on than I’d been at the start of the whole cancer malarkey. I’ve found this article very helpful over the years - After the treatment finishes by Dr Peter Harvey. Can’t post the link but it will come up if you do a search.
Other useful places for support: Maggies Centres if any near; Future Dreams House in London - lots on online sessions as well as in person; Penny Brohn Centre in Bristol - again, online sessions as well as face to face. Sending love and a big virtual hug, HFxx

HappyFeet1 xx

Don’t be afraid to cry. It will free your mind of sorrowful thoughts. – Hopi

Warrior52 1 hour ago in reply to HappyFeet1

Thank you for your reply & your advice

I have read that article it’s very interesting

Warrior52 1 hour ago in reply to Silverberg

Thank you for your reply

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