Hello lovely community, this is my first post here. I'm not entirely sure what to expect or if I'm asking for anything in particular, more just having a rant! I'm half way through my chemo treatments (have just finished four EC and will be having four Paclitaxel). My diagnosis is stage 2 invasive ductal carcinoma breast cancer, diagnosed over the summer. I've had two surgeries (lumpectomy and tissue margins removal) and will also be having radiotherapy and hormone therapy for ten years.
I'm very fortunate to have supportive friends and family. But, I've really had it with unhelpful, intrusive and insensitive comments, unsolicited advice, or queries that are well meaning, but ultimately serve the other person rather than me. E.g. "you look so well!" or "do you have a wig" or worse, overhearing my boyfriend's family on a call, asking how much hair I've lost and what I look like now 
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Pre-cancer I've been farly open with family and friends as to how uncomfortable it makes me for my looks to be commented upon, even when it's meant in a complimentary way. I feel strongly that how a person looks (particularly a woman) is the least interesting thing about her and following years of low self esteem, eating disorders and wasting a lot of precious time and energy focusing on this, I'm finally more free of this. I'm pretty horrified that those around me are not only hyper aware of my changing physicality, they think pushing their perception or opinons on to me is somehow useful or welcome
Has anyone else experienced this, and how have you found best to deal with this? I'm shocked that anyone who supposedly knows me well, would broach these topics, rather than being led by me on what I want to talk about/focus on.
