Feeling Vulnerable

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Hi all

i have just been diagnosed stage 4 IDC this week. I had my first oncology appointment today and finally have a plan. 

it’s been a tough day, there’s been lots of tears, mine and my husbands. 

Today though I’ve just felt really really vulnerable - we went out to a “light up” event in our town tonight, i struggled with the crowds and I clung to him like a limpet! It’s really not like me at all! I feel like I became a “patient” today too - something else I’ve struggled with. 

Has anyone else experienced this? Any advice? 

  • Hi, sorry to hear of your diagnosis. I am sure it has been a tough week.   Honestly I think your reaction is not so unusual. You've been through a lot and our body and mind sometimes take time to process this type of information. Be kind to yourself and take your time to adjust to this new normal.

    Don't forget the lovely folks at Macmillan are here, daily on 0800 808 0000 from 8am to 8pm for listen, provide advice or just have a chat, something to consider perhaps if you need that little bit of extra support.  Best wishes 

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  • It's a lot to get your head around. I feel vulnerable too. This journey is tough but I see posts again and again on the forums where people say they went through hard periods but then had good or even great times. Tonight's been tough for me. I'm finding the main problem is my emotions. It's like they are doubling the hardship.

    I hope you are doing ok xx

  • Hi

    I completely understand how you feel. I only finished chemo and radiotherapy for a Grade 3 this year. I lost all of my hair. Self confidence became none existent. I have started not wearing a hat but still feel very self conscious. Like a huge nuke went off

    I used to be very out-going goth girl but feel that people are staring and thinking "there goes the lass that had cancer", "her hair looks awful", and then there's the pity looks.

    My husband took me to a firework display in our town and no amount of praise and positive "you look so pretty", "you look great today" took away the anxiety and paranoia.

    But 1 thing this has taught me is to make the most of life and I'm now embarking on a completely new and different career path. Every day is a struggle, not gonna lie, but it is a slow process.

    I wish you all the best on journey and keep smiling. You are stronger than you probably feel right now