People can be so cruel

I am so sorry that you experienced that, I'm angry on your behalf. I would like to think that those 2 women are in the minority of small minded people who should learn that if they have nothing nice to say it's probably best to say nothing. I am sure going back feels awful but if you can then you should, hold your head high & enjoy your swim. Do you have someone that could go with you for support? 

Hi Helen I can't believe you have been treated so badly!  what nasty women!  I always live by "put yourself in their shoes"   It sounds like it's not in your nature but if that had happened to me I would have confronted them so they would have felt so ashamed. Maybe in a few days you will feel different and say "I'm not going to let them get away with it"  Shelly has suggested a friend go with you next time.  That is a really good idea.....do it.

Thank you both for your support it means a lot. If it had happened to someone else I could have been very vocal but when directed at me it just crushed me.  Sadly it's members only and I have not been going long enough to strike up a friendship,  it was one of my aims when I joined but not anymore

 Helen2021 , that is just sheer cruelty on their side, and I am so very angry on your behalf! 

Is there an organiser that you could approach with this? I consider it shouldn’t go unreported.

and yes, if it were possible to have someone go with you (maybe by special permission of the club/pool owner?) then I would and be encouraged to hold your head up high.

oh, and do approach the charity ‘knitted knockers’ as they produce scrunchy-style falsies for swimming, free of charge as well as softies. 

heartfelt hugs xxx

I cannot believe they would say such a thing. I actually read a similar story not so long ago on my community Facebook page, exactly the same as this written by the woman’s husband. I could honestly cry for you, we should be able to do what we want no matter what they look like. They are not setting a good example to their children are they.

I know it’s easier said than done but please try not to let it get to you, you are beautiful just the way you are xx 

Hi Helen2021 , like others, I am so angry on your behalf. I also feel that, if and when you can face it, the incident should be reported. Anyone who uses the word ‘freak’ to describe any other person is really despicable. I am sure that the club (I’m assuming it’s some sort of club as you’ve said it’s members only?) will have some sort of charter/ statement about members’ behaviour, towards each other as well as towards staff. Any exercise venue would hopefully seek to be inclusive, so any comments on another member’s appearance would I’m sure be condemned. I’m so sorry you’ve encountered these nasty, small minded bigots. I hope you can somehow manage, with some of the suggestions from others, to return to the pool, with or without any kind of prosthesis - you absolutely should not feel pressurised into anything. Re other support, I know of a group called Flat Friends - they have a private Facebook group if you do Facebook, but also can be contacted by email. There are apparently face to face meet ups as well as online support. I can’t post links but have done a screenshot of a page which shows the email address. And of course you can search for it online. Just a thought. Sending love and a big virtual hug, HFxx

Helen2021 you beautiful brave lady, you wonderful amazing courageous woman. The ( see you next Tuesday) people (if you know what I mean) can't take that away from you. I so wish I had been there for you, to rip a strip off them for their despicable behaviour. I would definitely go back and rub my one tit in their faces. Sorry I'm a Yorkshire Lass and extremely protective. Come on girl when you can, get your big pants on and go back. I wish they could have surgery to remove their hateful side. I love your bravery and perseverance. You are fantastic, please don't let them take that from you. Love and Big Hugs

Moomy makes a good point, maybe the club could make an exception to allow a friend to accompany you a couple of times as im sure they wouldnt want to be associated with their 2 nasty members. I really hope you find the courage to go again & not let these awful women win. Stay strong x

Omg ! I can’t believe women can be so insensitive! I’m really angry on your behalf. Go back to the swim pool and hold your head high , you’ve been through so much don’t hide yourself away . Shame on those ignorant stupid women

I can only mirror what others have said. These women are despicable, shallow and mindless. They were probably the school bullies. Nobody else in your life or your street is thinking this at all. I feel so angry, I wish I’d been there. I really hope you can find a way to go back there, I won’t say find the courage because you’ve shown courage in spades already, something they can’t ever know. I’d be very vocal about letting everyone there know what they’d said about you, I’d make them squirm, people will make their own minds up. I appreciate you might not be as bolshy as me though so at the very least go back, remember why you’re doing it.  I’m really sorry this happened to you xx