No friends

Where do you live? 
I get how you’re feeling. You’re not alone as hopefully you can meet people on here like I have xx 

I live in Lincoln 

I live in Lincoln xx

Hi Radar12, it is a very lonely thing to go through unless someone has been through this it is really difficult to explain how you feel but on the other side a lot of people find it hard to know what to do for the you. Some will over sympathise ( I'm not a fan ) some won't listen and just want to force you to be positive, it's I strange one. I do find comfort in talking to others with cancer, so I go to a cancer chat group at my local community centre in Rotherham, it really helps more than talking to my friend or family. Because I can really say how I feel without hurting anyone's feelings So then when I do talk to my friends I can just be me. There is also the "someone like me" help, where you get matched up with someone who has gone through this like you and they call you for a chat. I have done this through my Macmillan nurse. Basically I say yes to anything they offer me. And the look good feel good charity is nationwide. See if there is a group near you. 

This is one of the things the present system of surgery and out as fast as possible fails. Nineteen years ago after a lumpectomy I was in hospital for 6 days. On a four bed ward. We laughed, cried ,exercised and drank together. One of our group was brought wine instead of flowers. We hid it along with our mobile phones and chargers. We made great friends. 

However six years ago I started chatting on this forum. I made a friend I e mail every day and visit as often as I can, she lives in France. She's become an extra grandma to my granddaughters. 

This is a time to make new friends who can empathise with you and support you. There is nothing worse than the sincere, head tilt, and whispered " How are you? " This is a place to make friends, but don't be afraid to speak to other people in waiting rooms and treatment areas everyone is feeling or has felt just like you. Teach out and your hand will be taken.