Loneliness after surgery

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I really feel like I need to vent today as I’m struggling. Has anyone else found that once you had surgery and they removed the cancerous tumour that you were just left to get on with things? 

I started tamoxifen 4 weeks ago, I am having awful nausea and sickness with it the Breast care nurse suggested changing the brand as there’s not much of an alternative as I’m 38 and need to try give it 3 months to get into my system, I’ve switched to a night which has lessened the nausea but it still comes in waves. It’s reminding me of being pregnant as I had Hyperemesis gravidarum from 6 weeks pregnancy up until giving birth and the reason I didn’t have more children is because of this very problem. My emotions are all over the place and I just feel so alone and unsupported. I’m not allowed anti sickness meds long term either. I have really had enough and want my life back. 

I have tried all the usual nausea stuff and don’t know what to do.

  • Hi sweetie,  just a thought can they not give you anti. Sickness sort term to get you to the 3 month mile stone and help you that way. Thanks for your rant , we all need to every so often. You are not alone on here. 

  • Hi. I believe there is another brand of tamoxifen called nolvadex- d that has less binders and a more natural coating thus less side effects. 

    Can I just ask are you not having chemo and/ or radiotherapy? You say surgery, was this mastectomy or lumpectomy? I’m not much older than you so just interested to hear the different treatment plans people have. 

    You could always try the anti sickness bands, they are supposed to be very good. 

  • Hi I had a lumpectomy on the right breast and due for radiotherapy but that won’t be until September due to a waiting list. I am seeing my consultant tomorrow as I found another lump in the left armpit so getting it checked out. I will mention the nausea while there. 

    thank you. 

  • Hi

    i will ask again tomorrow it’s just so frustrating that it feels like  I have to fight for everything.