New diagnosis

Hi Berry

Welcome to the forum, I'm Daisy53 one the Community Champions on this forum.  I'm sorry to hear that you have been diagnosed with breast cancer and that you've lost your job.

If you feel up to it, why not give the Macmillan helpline a ring on 0808 808 0000 to talk to someone about how you are feeling, they will also be able to give you advice on finances.

Wishing you the best of luck with the results of your mri.

Best wishes

Daisy53

Hi so sorry your having a tough time I’ve just been diagnosed with grade 2 breast cancer too and am still waiting for a plan … why won’t your partner help you , I’m sure your be entitled to some help , Like daisy says ring macmillian a call wish you all the best ..Polly x

Hi polly 

My partner is very particular on what he spends his money on, he sees it has his and  not overly wanting to share it, I do appreciate it is his money but I won't be able to manage without his help 

Good luck with your plan, I've got another appointment next Wednesday x

Hey berry , think maybe he’s going to have to start helping you ..you don’t need that worry as well as the cancer, it’s a scarey place we are all in and each of us needs help and guidance from people and just someone to chat to this site has been so helpful I was a complete mess when I found out totally fell apart but chatting to these loverly people has given me hope , and I hope it helps you too .. thankyou for the good luck , it’s what we need …Polly xx

Hi Polly

• Yes he will have to step up but probably won't like it but I see how it goes, I do feel like my world is at a standstill and I have good days and bad but I haven't told my daughter because she is now doing her GCSEs.

Hi Berry , only you two can sort this out but if the shoe was on the other foot I’m sure you would help him .. yes you will I was having more bad days in the beginning but to be honest most days still are bad , I’m not surprised you haven’t told your daughter , my grandchildren don’t know yet I will tell them when I start treatment .. that way I can tell them I have cancer but am getting treated .. Polly xx

Hi Berry  sorry to hear about your diagnosis.  If you have been working for the last two tax years, you can claim New Style ESA, this is not means tested (which means it doesn't matter how much your partner earns)  rather it depends on how much National Insurance you have paid in.  Have you also looked at claiming PIP?  You can do both on www.gov.uk.  I wish you well on your journey.  I am here if you wish to chat.

Lee x

Hi Lee

Thank you for your message.

I put in a claim for ESA at the weekend but I don't meet the criteria for PIP.

I just wait to hear from ESA but think it takes a while.

I hope you are well and thank you again for messaging me. 

Hi Berry oh glad you put a claim in.  You can backdate ESA as well if you want up to 3 months it can only start day after you finished work.  I work for DWP and know it can be a mindfield .

Hi Lee

Ok that's good to know as I was made redundant on 30th April.

I was signed off for a week in April on the advice of my GP straight after my diagnosis but my employer only gave me some SSP but I am glad I don't work there anymore as my employer was a greedy person anyway.