Surviving after Chemo and Herceptin

I’m so sorry to hear you are in such distress and I’m not being supported at work.  Even though you are not being supported don’t forget that you are entitled to be supported so this needs to change.  it possibly feels like you do not have the strength to battle this alone at the moment. 
I have looked on theACAS website and they direct you to MacMillan for support with employment matters. I don’t know whether you have checked the MacMillan site out yet, but it sounds like this would be your first port of call to get the support you need. 
Don’t give up pursuing what you are entitled to.  it sounds like you are doing brilliantly after all you have been through. With the right support things can feel very different.  Sometimes we do need to escalate matters beyond our immediate manager and although this is not an easy thing to do your work HR department should be geared up for this process, so that everybody is treated fairly and the best solution can be reached. X

Thank you very much for your advice support and guidance. I really appreciate it. X

Hi, so sorry to hear you are struggling so much. I agree that calling Macmillan for some advice would be a good idea, and you can reach them on 0800 808 0000. You might also want to speak to your HR Manager if your line manager is not being very supportive.   Best wishes 

Hi,

To tell you the truth i do not have the strength to battle with my manager anymore. It is no point asking for support when there is no geniune care. I wish i was vocal, i have always let people walk over me and i cannot even grab the courage to tell her that out of all the service managers she has been unfair to me.  She asked me for a favour to help manage a service when one of my colleague resigned which i did for 2 months. I explained to her i could not carry on as i had to work long hrs to manage 2 services. She first agreed to give me an extra team leader, then she refused and said if she gives an extra team leader, i will have to keep the 2 services for good. When i put my foot down and said i was handing over back the addtional service....guess what how she rewarded me for the favour.... she allocated me another 2 community clients from that service.  Having raised concerns of my health she had no remorse. She recruited a new service manager, giving him 5 clients and am stuck with 11 now and another 3 is on the pipeline to move into my 24 hr care. I cried...but as always my husband told me just nevermind as i can do it. I came into terms with it ...  handover with 2 months rotas completed till end of Jan 2024, resolved a lot of issues and completed all supervsions for the staff despite i was not happy that in return she gave extra 2 clients from that service. I was still ok until last friday i read an emal after 5pm that i should input all shifts for that service for the whole month for payroll. That flipped me off.... the service manager i handover to received 2 mths rotas from me and he has 5 easy clients and despite handing over she expected me to still help. She pretends as if she does know what she is doing to me. This is how i got rewarded for the good work. On Tuesday i spoke to her and told her i am sorry i do not mind teaching the service manager how to input shifts for payroll but i cannot do it for him. I hate myself for not standing for myself to tell her that she had been so unfair. I am tired i cannot fight anymore. My daughter has been very upset due to bullying and the past 2 days we have been dealing with the headmaster.  My son came back from Uni to support her sister. I looked back when i was diagnosed of cancer and i am thinking what am i doing to myself..  the energy am wasting on crying  i am now going to use for my daughter and get my work done, i will manage my pain, be happy and rise above everything. God gave me strength, cancer did not kill me and i will survive these odds.  My parents never taught us to speak loud and retaliate, among all the children i have been the quiet one and i suffer in silence and move on. If i get anymore grief, i will directly write to HR. I have a friend who has just been diagnosed of cancer and i need to be there fior her and my daughter, no more wasting tears, i am seeing pain mgt specialist in January. I need to put my remainig energy in good use now  My friend is petrified with recent diagnosis of pancreatic cancer and right now her grief is more important than mine and i need to be there for her.  Work needs to be done to build awareness about the impact of cancer treatment.... i will make use of the number you provided and thanks a lot for the support.

I am so sorry to read your post, you have a lot going on and it sounds very challenging. Please do talk or email your HR manager. It really is their role to support you.  You could also request a formal meeting with your manager to discuss your workload and you are entitled to have a colleague with you, so someone who can help you say what you want, or even just be there as moral support. I encourage you to speak up, despite it being really difficult. I hope you find a way through this and get the help you need.