Lumpectomy scars

Hi Lainia

Sorry to hear about what your husband said to you about your scars.  Only if you want to of course why not tell your husband how upset you feel about his remark.  The way I feel about my lumpectomy scar is that that scar has saved my life.

You take care of yourself and do whatever you feel comfortable with.

Best wishes

Daisy53

Hi Lainia

l had the same operation almost 3 weeks ago. I do think it is hard for the people around us and sometimes they say things that feel insensitive and it is not meant in the way it is said. Again as Daisy53 suggested, if you are comfortable, explain to your husband how that comment made you feel. 

I wish you positive vibes on your journey ️

Owww Lainia ,

First, let me say I am sorry you find yourself on this website, however, this said the ladies and gents in this community forum are truly amazing and actually understand how you feel - we really do, most will of walked parts of each others journeys so can help with strength and support - when others, even those closest to us have not got any idea of how we feel or what we have or are going though.

I am sorry your husband made such a flippant comment - yes it is sad, but the alternative is far worse.  It took me weeks to even look at myself and yet before my lumpectomy I was saying 'take them both off' and scaring was never even a thought that I would be bothered about.....

Afterwards when we are healing both mentally and physically 'everything bothers us' - even that sentence from your husband. Sometimes people say things to 'try' to make a situation better and it comes out all wrong.

What I will add - you are VERY, VERY early days the scaring you see now will be nothing like that in a month and again nothing like you see then, six months even less - to the point you should be left with a very faint line.... of course we all heal differently, even having 'puckers' along the incision line - these too will lessen....

Try hard to take it as your husband feeling sorry for what has happened and he didn't know how to word this and then keep in your mind every day these scars will change - and most of all remember you scar is there for a reason - that scar is part of your healing.

I hope what I have said makes sense - you just carry on on your road to recovery - you have had so much go on these passed weeks - now is your time to recover.

Sending love and hugs xxx

Hi Lainia

Oh my - sorry you are upset from your husband’s comment. I have scars from an oophorectomy and now mastectomy/reconstruction. I see it as life can be a little unfair and not always straight forward but I survived! 

Good positive thoughts to you..be proud of the scars. I will be.

xx

Hi all, thanks for your comments. It’s now 2.5 weeks since my op and I have to say my scars are looking so much better. The one around the edge of my aerola doesn’t stand out that much. And the one under my arm is also looking so much better and less painful. I also somehow still have some feeling in my nipple, which they told me I wouldn’t. So that is great.