Feeling rubbish getting me down, anyone else?

It’s alright to feel this way. I get fed up with healthy people telling me to keep positive.. I do keep as positive as I can... but you’re right there are just some days where it is impossible. Having a small child to care for must be very wearing. Mine are adults now so only have myself to care for and that is difficult enough. Just embrace your feelings and don’t feel guilty. Sometimes a little cry does the power is good. X

This is (unfortunately) very normal. It’s a scary and long winded rollercoaster ride at times, often with twists and turns and the odd boulder to navigate. You don’t have to feel positive, hopeful maybe, but if neither fit your lifestyle, then that’s ok. It will be harder with a child. X

Thanks for your reply.  You are right just gotta embrace however you feel, and I think a cry can be a good outlet!

Thankyou for your reply.  It certainly is a rollercoaster ride and you're right hopeful is different to positive.  Sometimes positive just isn't realistic.

Hello LucyP. So sorry you are having to go through this at such a young age and if that’s not bad enough trying to take care of a child as well.  I feel for you.  It’s nearly 2.30 and I’m only just and showered    I’m having reflexology this afternoon they say it’s a great healer for many things.  Maybe you could book one for yourself.  I’m only 5 weeks post op (for the second time) - I’ve been having treatment since 2021.  You will get there Lucy sometimes pushing yourself is not positive.  I’ve had to cancel my gym membership but I’ve been making stuff at home.  I’m tired now and I’ve only been up since 1.  If your child is at school take every minute to look after yourself.  Big hugs J xx

I will consider looking into reflexology, thanks for the recommendation :). I have been having acupuncture for hot flushes and joint pain and that has been helping a bit so am definitely up for trying other complementary therapies. My son is at school and tou are right I need to make the most of that time.  I just find it so hard to relax enough to fall asleep despite feeling completely exhausted.

I hope you enjoy reflexology it really helps xx

I can absolutely relate to this - I’m 37 with 2 young kids (6 &1 yr old) and going through this is bloody hard while trying to ‘keep positive’. If 1 more person tells me to keep going or reminds me I’m nearly at the end of my chemo I’ll scream. I know they all mean well but sometimes it’s just not what you want to hear, sometimes you just need to have a day or so when you all acknowledge this all sucks. The side effects of the hormones & the realisation in the past few days of how going into a sort of menopausal state is going to possibly affect my relationship has me really worried now & getting me down. Just another worry to add. 

Hope you have a few better days & don’t feel bad about the bad days & having a rant, always good to just get them out there xx

Hi,

Thanks so much for your reply.  Sorry you are also in this position so young   I think there are some inique challenges to it when caring for young children, and facing being thrown into menopause with all its lovely symptoms overnight.  Could handle it if it was temporsry but knowing will be on hormone treatment for many years and and this is just it now is hard.  Feels like it's taking so much and so many choices (ie.regardi g fertility) from life. Obviously its amazing what the treatments can do and how they reduce risk of recurrence.  Very much worth it,  but still doesn't  change how much it sucks!! 

Hi Lucy, sorry you're having to cope with this, you're right, it really sucks and it's ok to have a bad day or two, in fact I think it's pretty normal. There are some aspects of chemo that really got me down and some days were better than others. Hope you manage to get some rest when your child is at school, best wishes