I have posted here a few times talking about how both of us had cancer. My husband was diagnosed with stomach cancer in February last year and I was diagnosed with breast cancer in June. I had a mastectomy and am on hormone treatment and am doing well in that respect. My husband ( we celebrated our 60th wedding anniversary in August was not so lucky. At first they said that there was nothing they could do for him as the cancer was inoperable. Then they decided to see if an op was possible. He had keyhole surgery but decided that the operation would not give a success full result. So he went through rounds of radiotherapy and that did not help at all and he deteriorated rapidly. The last few weeks were simply awful . I cannot even think of the dreadful time my husband had. He was a very positive and determined man and that never left him . He died in December and we, myself, my daughter and son all were thankful for the end of his suffering. . I am finding it hard to come to terms with it all. I feel neither sad nor happy. I feel a great sense of emptiness. I almost feel guilty that I am not crying and grieving . I have talked about this with my daughter who says she feels the same . She and her father were very close and soul mates. He also had a very good relationship with our son and we were a very close family. Such an important member of the family is missing and he has left a big gaping hole in our lives..
Coral one thing the psychologist said is helping loads, she showed us (there were 5 in our bereavement group) 2 pictures which are similar to what I’ve found and will post here;
please believe it, it’s helped
hugs xxx
Moomy
