Feeling so upset

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I'm having my last treatment this week but dont feel as happy as I thought I would. I'm waiting results from MRI, surgery booked for 4 weeks it's coming to an end but I find it hard to be positive. Is this usual? Others are more pleased than me. My emotions are all over the place after quite a stable period. Just didn't expect it.

  • Hey Mummy M, I am not in the same place as you but everything throughout life that causes your life to change, such as breast cancer is going to require a lot of strength, emotion and getting use to a new normal. Just as you get use to the new normal, something changes again and you have to adapt….again. It is draining but you will get there. Maybe you are subconsciously not allowing yourself to be pleased about finishing treatment because you have already gone over all the worse case scenarios in your head and still looking too far ahead. Others may find this process easier to be more positive if merely they think that will help you. Who knows, but everyone handles things differently and I would say that no matter how you are feeling, whether that’s numb, happy or sad…let yourself feel that way, there is no wrong way to feel. Congratulations on finishing your treatment, another huge step you have taken in this process. XX

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    See Lacomtekp msg (along with DS38 reply) v useful info as they feel like you…I have yet to await hopefully, the joyous news that you have received! It I wish you well and hope in time your onward journey will leave you less worried xxx

  • Hi, I finished chemo about a year ago and had a really good response and whilst everyone else was delighted, I was just, well, nothing really. I didn't feel good or bad, it was odd.  I think there was something in me not quite wanting to believe it, or not wanting to tempt fate.  I think there is no right or wrong way to manage any of this stuff, so my advice is just try to keep busy and focused and best of luck with surgery 

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  • Hi

    This is a great paper by Dr Peter Harvey that really understands what your emotions have been through and are still going through.  I found it exceptionally useful.  

    Click this link here

    I hope it helps you to understand that you're not unusual and it's perfectly understandable why you are up and down emotionally at the moment.

    Kindest Wishes,

    Lesley

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