unsympathetic surgeon, feeling really down

Did you talk to surgeon about reconstruction? You could discuss with breast nurse if it’s safe to have recon with an outside agency, ie. Anyone of the High St companies. If not, it seems unfair that you should need counselling because of the way your breast looks and makes you feel. This is not a random boob job, this is after care ….I wish you well. Xx

yes I did ask about reconstruction but she just didn't seem interested.  I will talk to the breast nurse and also my GP

thank you for your reply

carolyn

Could you ask for a second opinion there? I was told that (by my surgeon) that delayed reconstruction is part of the NHS guidelines for care. 

As if we haven’t got enough on our plates..don’t need a difficult bedside manner!!  ️

Godliness for care?? My friends recon has been delayed cos she won’t stop smoking!!

Guidelines lol

Hi Carolyn . I had lumpectomy on both breasts in September.  One looks ok but well the other one ! Bloody hell . Also my left breast is significantly smaller than the other  with a bloody great dent taken out the bottom below the nipple .

i was rather hoping to resume my glamour modelling career LOL ! But that has been struck a cruel blow now ! . Seriously though I do understand your low mood but please remember the woman you are and how your bravery and fortitude got those bloody scars . I just look in the mirror and think “ what the f….” But maybe lumpectomy and radiotherapy fried my brains .

Lots of love 

Penelope x

Hi Penelope

Thank you for your reply 

I had quite a positive attitude until I spoke to my surgeon on Tuesday. I think  I had my hopes up that something could be done. I see a therapist next Tuesday which was arranged really quickly. 

I will get my positivity back i just think I had a little blip.

Just one thing though how do you get on with your bra's I have tried a few different options but they keep moving over to the side of my good boob

thanks 

carolyn x

Hi Carolyn . Of course you get low moods and  I do to , I really hope you didn’t think my last reply was being flippant . If so I apologise unreservedly now . I was simply trying to remind both of us really that when we look at our battle scarred bodies we need to be proud not ashamed.  
practically regarding bras ,after a lot of faffing about the best I have found are the padded non wired by Sainsburys ( of all places) . I found by buying a large and removing one pad from the cup leaving the other one in did the trick . 
Have a go .

Penelope x

Hi penelope 

no need to apologise.  I like your attitude and it sounds a lot like me normally 

Thank you for your advice regarding the bra situation, I will have a look in sainsbury. 

carolyn x