Boosting your confidence

Hello lovely

i was in your position 3 years ago and totally relate to your comment of not recognising yourself. Every time I looked in the mirror it wasn’t me looking back!  Try and stay positive, now the weather is getting better get outdoors as much as you can. You will get through this just take each day at a time and try to have things in the diary to look forward to.

Sending you positive thoughts and a hug 

Dawn xxx

Hi,

I am not long out of treatment, finished chemo end of December and radiotherapy in February. During treatment we started to book a treat for every month, just something to focus on ahead, a concert, a few days away, dinner out. At times I felt we would never get here but we did and so will you.

Take care of yourself x

Thank you both x

Its just horrible feeling so vulnerable 

It’s a good idea to plan something nice to do once a month . I’m just so flippin scared that this treatment isn’t going to work but I know it’s important to stay positive if possible ( easier said than done ) 

I think I’m just still in disbelief sometimes  

love L xx

Have a look at  https://lookgoodfeelbetter.co.uk  They do a range of classes to help with self esteem and confidence. There are ones for hat/scarf use and. NAil and hand care. 
I did the makeup one via Zoom and it was good fun plus a lot of useful tips. You even get a goodie bag of big name makeup and skincare products. 

Rachel

Hi, I know exactly how you feel. I went into work on Friday just to see my colleagues and I was dreading it in case they didn't recognise me, as I don't even recognise me.  I still can't believe this has happened to me. I think  planning something once a month is a good idea which I am going to try and do myself.

Virtual hugs, Mel x

Thank you  

Ill take a look 

L xx

Hi Mel 

Good on your for going in to see your colleagues , did it end up ok then ? 
It takes a long time to sink in I think , even when I think it has , something happens or even a thought comes into my head that feels like a punch in the stomach 

I think the once a month plan is a great idea  

L xx

Yes it wasn't as bad as I imagined it would be and then I had a lovely message in the evening from one of my colleagues.  My confidence was knocked about a month ago because a friend said my face looked different so I had it in my head that nobody would recognise me. 

Aw I’m pleased to hear that and glad you got a nice message later on too x

I remember you saying about your friend commenting on your face , fgs people just do not think do they ?! Someone told me I’d lost weight … I mean cmon ! ‍♀️ 

L xx

it's amazing how much a probably perfectly innocent comment can hurt like an arrow, I was thinking that when I take a fleeting glimpse of my bald head when getting out of Bath my face  looks  different!  not better or worse just different!  I know it's easy to say but maybe we have a few more frown lines and understandably so...I bet the person who said it would be mortified if they knew they had upset you.....anyway we all know its inside that counts xxxx