Lost a friend yesterday

Hello Nora

I think I do understand. I lost my hubby 6 months before I was diagnosed. He had cancer, but no symptoms until very late and was only diagnosed two weeks before he passed away. He wanted chemo, but was not fit enough to get it. I felt that I 'owed' it to him and my grown-up kids to do everything I can to  beat the b***** , and survive. If we are going to have a big C, thank goodness it it something which is usually removeable and for which there are ever more effective treatments. 

Emotions are a rollercoaster at times of bereavement and at diagnosis, so you will be experiencing a double ride. Talk it out with whoever you have in your life and use this forum to vent and for advice and support.

wishing you a better day than yesterday.

Wallydug

Aww Wallydug, wish I could send more than a virtual hug.  I can't begin to imagine how you have been and are feeling but I love your "Beat the b****" quote.  I had a colleague who fought the big C for years and his catch phrase was similar well something like "flip cancer" but not quite.  I think it can be a healthy defiance that this may have hold us us for now, but it's not a battle we're going to let it win.   When I was diagnosed the consultant said three times before he told me it was cancer that this is treatable and once that message was through he told me it was cancer. 

I hang on to the fact that I've fought worse illnesses before and won, so BC can think again if it thinks it's got a hope of beating me.

You both deserve a big hug ((( HUG))) xx