Just found out got breast cancer

Nothing is silly, and I’m glad you’ve found a place that you can vent and tell it like it is! 

good news that it hasn’t spread, but yes, every ache and pain makes you doubt it all over again! 

Waiting for treatment, of any sort, is a very hard stage, the best you can do is try to keep off Google (since it’s usually out of date and full of scare stories anyway!) and keep your body and mind as occupied as you can. 

hugs xxx

I agree, i was also struck my the Sarah Harding news today.  I'm 7 week post surgery and chem starts next week.  We have to remain positive.  Its tough when you do not know what to expect.

Stay positive

xx

Hi it’s not silly, we all have the same worries but just remember all of us are different and respond differently to treatment, there are lots of other stories of people living long healthy lives after breast cancer, I was told by a lady the other day that she had it 20 years ago. There are also lots of ladies on the site that have had it and survived. Try and stay off google as Moomy said it’s usually out if date and full of scare stories. 

Take care

Diane xx

Hello,

I am sorry to read you have had such a worrying time. We can all empathise with you. Even now six years after my diagnosis I have ' what if ' days. But there is some good news in your results. If it isn't in your nodes, it hasn't started to spread yet. Treatment is very successful for early diagnosis. Once you have a plan, it will be easier to feel more in control.

This is a good site to find but googling is not a good idea. Often information is out of date and is presented in a negative form. There is usually someone around to answer your questions or just listen to your fears. If you just like a chat or a laugh or to feel there are ' virtual' friends out there who understand your moods....try Awake. At the moment it's very positive because there's  a new baby on the horizon.

It was very sad that Sarah Harding died so young but her cancer was quite advanced when it was found. Whether she was too busy to deal with it or unlucky that she didn't notice it, I remember reading that it had spread when her treatment began. Everyone's situation is different but to begin with you can be positive.......many people on this site have had treatment, which can be quite unpleasant, but in finishing it have been clear of cancer. As I said previously mine was six years ago on Oct 1st. When I was first diagnosed,  two people I knew as acquaintances shared their history that they had had cancer twenty and twenty seven years previously. I didn't know them then and had no idea. It was just what I needed to hear and hope it can give you hope too.

Hopefully you will know soon what will happen next. The unknown is always the worse. Take care and stay in touch.

Love Karen

Hi Sisters4,

feeling the same as you today but i keep reminding myself that my cancer was caught early and i can beat this. I'm currently waiting for my lumpectomy at the end of the month to (and i quote my friend) get the bastard out. I stopped googling and started reading the blogs and replies on this sight, much more informative and factual.

Sorry hit the button before i had a chance to say take care and stay positive x Tracy

Your words are very reassuring to a lot of us and so true. I’ve been so sad all day thinking of Sarah and the turmoil she and her mum have experienced. Yes we are all different so for all of us, take a breath and pause. Focus on your treatment, there is a lot of positive things happening right now with treatments and we have to believe it’s all for the good xx

Hi,you are at the scariest time, at least it was for me. Waiting for results, waiting for treatment plan is the worst.  I found once I knew what was going to happen, it all became easier, honestly.   I agree with the others, Dr Google is a nightmare, stick to Macmillan or Breast Cancer Now for factual explanation. I found that treatment these days is very bespoke to each person, which is great but hard to get exact comparisons on line.

I was diagnosed 6 months ago, am through the worst of the treatment and the cancer has gone so now it's just about prevention. And you will find many many people on here with similar stories.  The blogs are also worth reading, mine is called One Life Live It, and it helped me to write everything down in this way,

Good luck with the next few days and weeks, I hope it does get easier for you x

Thank you all so much very annoyed with myself as I am normally a really positive person and over the last few weeks have pushed it it one side but yesterday think hit me ......no more Google.... thinking I am lucky that only 4 weeks ago found lump and once scan is done next week .get treatment  sorted  all very quick ..good luck to all of us 

You are not being silly. The passing of Sarah H really brings it home that this is not a trivial thing we are dealing with, even though survival rates are fantastic these days.

As others have said, this is definitely the worst time mentally, the waiting for scans and results is very challenging and there is absolutely nothing anyone can say to make it feel better or time to go quicker, other than we have all been there and know how awful it is.

I cried when I heard the Sarah Harding news. She announced her illness on the same day I got my diagnosis and the what ifs really came home. Back in August 2020, I turned the radio off whenever her story came on,  I just couldn't hear it when I was going through all the diagnostic tests.

On a positive, it has reminded me to be grateful for the aches and pains I have from the hormone treatment! I am lucky to have found mine early and have been successfully treated. You'll get through this and enjoy life again.

As for google, most of the stuff is out of date as breast cancer research has so much funding that things move on quickly. Between the time that I had started chemo and when I finished, they were already talking to me about new oral chemo that had just been approved if they felt like I needed further treatment after surgery.

You also don't have the full picture, and everyone's cancer is unique to them. I found it easier to google once I at least knew what I was dealing with (size, ER/PR+ etc).

You will feel better once you have your treatment plan and know what your life is going to look like for the next few months.