Uneven breasts

Hi Silhouette welcome to the forum. Please dont beat yourself up about the weight I feel the same and its fascinating that the boobs grow at the same time and expand.  It does sound like it is affecting you very badly though so I wonder if a visit to the GP to discuss this with them would be the best way forward.

At your age? My god you are not over the hill yet nor even anywhere near that so of course breasts are important to you, they are part of what makes you feel like you and your femininety  so yes they are important to you. You are the only one that matters when you make this decision as friends wont get it unless this has happened to them .

I think you need to speak to the GP and tell them what you have said here and be honest and open about how this is affecting you as they can maybe make a recommendation for you to have this surgery. Im not sure on that but worth asking them anyway. 

I do agree withGRANNY59.

It is wrong you have been made to feel you should be grateful for mismatched breasts and peripheral  neuropathy.  You must talk to some one....and soon. If you are afraid that you won't say what you are feeling because it has embarrassed you why don't you make a copy of the above letter and post it to your gp saying you need to talk to someone and this is how the problem is affecting you.?You can say you could share in this group because you knew others experience similar situations.

So what are the solutions? Well, I think you need a change of surgeon. The one you had sounds as if they have no sympathy with your situation. My surgeon was the opposite.  He did such a neat job but after a year there was a slight size difference between the two breast sizes. He pointed this out but also showed me that my cleavage was balanced. He said he felt that for more mature ladies....the cleavage looking balanced was probably more important than slight size differences. However, he said it was up to me. If I wanted another op to feel more feminine, he would do it. We both agreed I was content with things as they are. I have since been signed off....after five years....but he told me that I could contact him anytime if I felt differently. I realise this doesn't help you as you probably don't live near but my point is that there have to be other surgeons who treat patients as people not conveyor belt work.

I think if you find someone who empathises and offers help, you will have any incentive  you might need if the doctors still feel a bit of weight loss will make the op safer.

For the moment the most important thing is to get someone listening. Have you tried a Macmillan phone line or Breast Cancer care? They may have better information about your rights.

As for the peripheral neuropathy.....if you aren't seeing a neurologist, insist you have a referral. I have permanently damaged nerves from the chemo but with the help of a neurologist I am dealing with my vitamin B deficiencies and pain management makes exercise much easier.

I hope you can get help soon but please keep in touch. Chat on the Awake thread if you just need some support. A lot of ladies there have similar difficulties.....bras, neuropathy, weight gain but they also like laugh too. Perhaps that would help you too?

Take care. Love Karen

I so agree! I think you need to push for another opinion, it sounds as if your team are dismissive of your feelings and circumstance.

I had an implant following a mx and even though I’m nowhere near matched, and wanted a plastic surgeon opinion, we agreed that in a well fitting padded bra it’s fine. However, both surgeons freely said that if at any stage I felt I wanted intervention they would see mr again and advise and discuss what best to do.

Hugs xxx

Thanks for for your reply. Just reading your, and the other ladies responds, has given me hope. I will speak to my gp. 

Thanks for for your reply. Just reading your, and the other ladies responds, has given me hope. I will speak to my gp. 

my surgeon did a great job in saving my right breast when it was originally scheduled to be removed completely.  Immediately after my lumpectomy my surgeon said I could go back to her at a future date, but every time I asked about surgery my breast care nurse kept telling me that it was not possible because of my weight. I feel that it was my breast care nurse that was blocking any opportunity to speak to my surgeon. 

Thanks for for your reply. Just reading your, and the other ladies responds, has given me hope. I will speak to my gp. 

your surgeon sounds great, and yes, unless someone had had to endure their body being negatively altered by surgery then they can’t understand how big a deal it is.   
I will also speak to my gp about my neuropathy. I have stopped taking my gabepentin medication because it only had a limited beneficial effect. I was referred to a pain clinic and they tried giving me capsaicin treatment but it didn’t work. I  was then referred to a physiotherapist and after slight improvement involving some pain tolerance exercises, I was given crutches and signed off from both the pain clinic and physiotherapy. I thought again all options had been exhausted till you mentioned being referred to a neurologist.