Hes left me

Dear @Charlieandlola, I too can’t seem to tag you….

just wanted to say that we are all here for you and extending my hands and arms to give you a virtual hug. 

As others have eloquently said, that cheating man is better off out of your life but the way he did it is cruel beyond measure. You are the victim here and I hope you get some sort of official support as such.

More hugs xxx

Hello 

I'm so heartened and grateful to everyone for the amazing messages of support.  I've blocked him on my phone now and my son has told him not to contact me again and to speak to him. He certainly wont treat Sam like he does me! The more I think about it the more I realise it's been quite an emotionally abusive relationship. He will no doubt be telling people I'm awful but apart from normal tiredness in every day life, I'm not a horrible person.  I've waited on him hand and foot. I went to work today as my colleagues are all so caring and when I got home there was no lazy ars#### sat watching star trek ( yes star trek every night) and a nice tidy home. The washing machine was constantly on. I'm still very shocked and upset and have cried this evening but in some glimpses I see my life will get better. 

Thanks all of you for supporting me.

Love julie x

I'm so glad that you are starting to feel a bit better today,  and have support from family and at work today.  Don't forget to sort out your joint account as it's payday soon,  and don't worry about what he says.... anyone who knows you both will see through that! Go girl!

Xxx

It's so nice to read your post @charlieandlola - I can feel it in your writing, that test of course you are upset - but.... I truly think you will see life for the better.... maybe not just yet - but you will.  A bit like the situation that we all came here with, we get pushed along and don't have time to grief until afterwards.... when we have already lost the person we was.  I reckon this is what is happening for you ..... your tears and upset are your way of moving forward, slowly, one step and one day at a time.... at the moment you are upset and crying for what you had .... well what you thought you had and if I'm honest you never really had 'what you thought it was'..... just what the sh** let you think you had!!

You will do this, You WILL get through this and in time you truly will wonder how you stood for him for so long.

Listen to what Londonmumof2 has said about your bank account - get your money paid into a different account, etc and not sure if it was London that said it or one of the other Fruit Loops..... get your locks changed!! most important - this way he can't just walk in 'if he feels like it, or, the other relationship as gone sour'.

Sending love and hugs xxxx

Hi Julie. I'm so sorry. 

Hello 

Thanks for your messages its really helped. I met him at the bank on Wednesday and unfortunately broke down in front of him but managed to collect myself quickly.  He turned up in suave clothing, stinking of strong aftershave.  Very cold and calculating. The job was done and I know have the money sorted. I've made notes ready for solicitors.  Its going to be a difficult time as now the property needs to be sold. Ive been to a barbecue on Thursday evening and went to my daughter's for an Indian last night. I'm going to start sorting the house for valuation this weekend.  

The most amazing news is I had a mammogram last week, first one since surgery last year and I received the letter to say it shows no evidence of disease, so 2 diseases out my life! 

That's awesome 

Love julie xxx

Great news about the mammogram @charlieandlola. You can relax a little now. Sorting housrs for moving is never easy and especially if you hadn't planned to move but you're sounding more positive and as you say, it will give you a new start.I'm so pleased the bank is sorted.

I hope things start to go well for you now. I think getting out and spending time with friends and family is a good thing. Hopefully your daughter will help you with the house clearance. I think I'd be inclined to do like they do on the telly and put anything of his you come across in a black sack and deliver it outside of his new address! Whilst the end result might actually make you happier......the way he has treated you is inexcusable.......

Take care. Love Karen

Excellent news about the mammogram, Julie 

Congratulations on the mammogram result - great news  and good to hear that things are getting sorted out quickly as well. Good luck with the house clearance and sale.  Don't overdo it though,  and maybe ask help from your family. I cleared out my uncle's flat in February, and it was a week's work! Xxx

Good for you! Keep moving forward and you will come out smiling after all this rubbish is over.

I'm a year on and hopefully next scan will be good.

Good luck for the future, good to know you have your family around for support.

Paula x