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Oh Oriena, how difficult for you.  Whilst we all have different diagnoses and treatments, breast cancer is one of the most treatable forms of cancer these days.  I found a 56mm lump about 2 months ago. I have started chemotherapy and the lump is currently only 11mm and I am only half way through chemo.  The waiting and the uncertainty is very very hard, but you'll have lots of support from your hospital team and from this community on line.  I found keeping busy was the best way to try and stop thinking about it.  Sending positive thoughts x

Thank you soo much for comfort me dear, yeah I was read some people have different diagnoses and treatment, I will trying to keep busy to make not thinking this, and good luck for your treatment love xx

Hi Oriena

I had the same in January, I am active and look after myself, but BC does not care. My children are 5 and 9 and I could not cope with the feeling that I had let them down by being ill. One day at a time, and I say to myself, today I am fine. 

Same feeling as me, my doctor also asking me to do that every go to sleep and wake up to said I am ok, and she she said don't to much stress...it's hard but I still trying for my kids, how is it now r you feel better? 

And is anyone have problem with appetite?

I had a mastectomy and have just stared the chemo.

I also had tablets for anxiety and sleep for a while to get me through, And lost a stone, it is very stressful and I needed help. So don’t be afraid to ask for help.

I am still not yet starting yet just waiting my doc to call me, but now I already  like not really fit sometime tired and not really want to eat, I though this is because I was too much stress, you are all strong ladies xxx .. I need to do same things like you all...keep chat in here what your experience so you can send me positive though.. love you all

Hello Oriena, I too have a 4 year old and been diagnosed with ER positive breast cancer last feb, just finished surgery last week and waiting for the results. Waiting is always the most difficult. I too am living away from my family as I moved here in the UK 11 years ago. Im just here if you need to talk, we need to look out for each other and be strong for our kids xxx

Hello jane34 oh my god yeah you understand what I feel, I can't even talk with my mom about this disease, because I will broken her hearts and I don't want to see my mom crying,I already feeling hard ,I don't want tell her. I just tell some friends and ask them to support me and my bro too, but now I have all friends here same experience with me is feel I am not alone. Yeah we need to be strong always for our little one xxx️

I think it’s only natural to feel anxious and stressed and to lose sleep and appetite. Personally I lost nearly two stone and slept very little in between getting my diagnosis and then getting test results and a treatment plan. After that things were much better as I knew what I had to deal with. I know it’s so hard but try to see the positives - there’s something that needs attention and it’s going to get fixed. You will have a world of support from your medical team who should be able to offer mental well-being support if you need it. Also worth a chat with your GP. Mine has been excellent.

My heart goes out to you with young children, mine are 19 and 22. That said it was still the hardest thing to tell them and to try and reassure them. They seem to be dealing with it well now.

Macmillan has some information if you haven’t found it already;

https://www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/diagnosis/talking-about-cancer/talking-to-children-and-teenagers

Hopefully you’ve also realised there’s a ton of support on this forum too. I hope it’s helpful for you.

I’m halfway through chemo now, probably looking at surgery late August. It actually seems to have gone very quickly!

Wishing you all the best with your treatment xx

Yes I told my family the last because I dont know how to break the bad news.. my mum cried everyday :( I also told some of my close friends only in the UK. Fortunately my work manager and colleagues had been very supportive. Try not to worry too much and im sure the little ones keep you busy. The doctors and breast care nurses are also wonderful so ask them any questions you might have. Do you know what type of breast cancer it is?