Can't sleep, this waiting game is so hard!!!

Hi , you’re at the tortuous stage of waiting for results - guaranteed to mess with your head and of course sleep. Horrible horrible time, I really feel for you. Can only say that most here say it’s so much better once you know some stuff for sure. And of course the biggest ‘if’ is whether it’s cancer or not. Although I’d usually say, which is true, that most breast issues are benign, I think if your consultant says it’s likely cancer then it probably is. I don’t think they say that if they’re not pretty certain, but need to wait for the pathology results to say for sure. Mine said this as soon as she looked at the scans, and she was right. 

But but but .... do try to keep reminding yourself that breast cancer is very treatable and treatments have moved on hugely in recent years. If possible, try not to dwell on exactly which treatments you will face as that totally depends on the exact nature of your particular beast. But your treatments will be tailored for you to get the most benefit. Whatever your plan turns out to be, many here will have gone through them and you will find a wealth of support and shared experiences here. I hope you’ll never feel alone now that you’re here. And also take heart from the fact that there are so many folk rattling around this site, many of whom had their treatments years ago, still here! 

Keep posting, ask questions, rant and rave, whatever gets you through this limbo stage and let us know how you get on. Sending love and a big virtual hug, HFxx

Morning Happyfeet1, 

Thank you so much for such a lovely reply! Means so much, thank you!!

Trying to keep myself and my mind busy this week is gonna tough. 

Lots of love and thanks again xxx

Hi 

The waiting for results is awful, nothing anyone says, however well-intentioned , will stop the heart stopping moment when you do forget and then remember again ... I found a lump and was sent to the breast clinic, mammogram , ultrasound and biopsies, the usual stuff. My consultant told me there  and then it was definitely cancer and I would be going back for my treatment plan, not a diagnosis. She asked how I felt and I said relieved , not that I had cancer obviously, but that I knew what it was. I had only been to my GP on the Thursday morning, and this was 8:30 am on the Monday, so I didn’t have long to wait at all! So it is highly likely it will be a cancer diagnosis for you too, but as HappyFeet1 has said, it is very treatable nowadays - the treatment isn’t always easy , but it is all doable. Do you have a date on when you will get your results? 

One piece of advice - get yourself a notepad and write down how you are feeling, questions to ask, good advice etc. Write on this throughout the day and try and only look at it once a day when you can properly think about how you are feeling etc, rather than spending the day with thoughts ricocheting around your head.

 I found this really helpful throughout my cancer journey and helped me feel a bit more in control of a situation I actually had no real control over...

Hope this helps, and good luck with your diagnosis

jo x

Hi McFarla. 

Dear McFarla. Nearly didn't come on here but so glad I did. I am at exactly the same stage as you but last Wednesday. Feel so the same and the wonderful replies you have had are also helpful to me too. Sending you virtual hugs x

Hi

A warm welcome to the online community. Sorry that you find yourself here but I'm glad we've been able to help you. The waiting is awful and I hope you won't have to wait too long. Feel free to come here and chat with us as much as you need and please do let us know how you get on.

Sending hugs

R

Jo thank you so much, another lovely reply and very helpful!

I had a call from the hospital today and they have told me my consultant has to self isolate and will now ring me on Friday at the time my appointment should have been and then see me face to face next Tuesday. I'm not sure if I'm ok about this or not? Not that I have any choice it is what it is. I'm guessing if I have to go back and see her the results are thatcshes right.

It all feels so surreal!!! Is this actually happening right now??!

Thank you again for your lovely message xxx

Hey Clucks, I'm so sorry your in the same position as me it sucks big time!!!

I'm sure like me your hardly sleeping and can't stop thinking about it and then have moments where it all feels so surreal!

When are you getting your results? I hope you haven't got tomwait too long!!

Anytime you want to chat please do. 

Sending lots of love and hugs xxxx