......Hello......Sorry you had to find yourself on this site but you have found a good place to find support. No wonder you feel devastated.....we all worry for our children and twenty five is very young to be experiencing something so difficult.
I imagine as your daughter has been told she has cancer, she has already had a number of tests and a biopsy. She may have been given details of her proposed treatments and between you , you may have many questions you would like to ask. Everyone who contributes on these threads has either experienced breast cancer or has very close connections to someone who has, so there will always be someone who can empathise or offer practical advice.
Don't be discouraged by the fact your daughter has breast cancer. It has become a very treatable cancer and improvements in drugs and personalised protocol mean many people make a successful recovery. Certainly the treatment might not be pleasant but the end results are hopeful. My own diagnosis was almost five years ago and my cancer is still clear.
So don't google. Ask any questions you need to on this site.....express your feelings, rant, cry, .......someone will always be here to listen. When you know your daughter's treatment plan ....if for example she has chemo or radiotherapy ....there are monthly threads especially dedicated to these and many find it helpful to share their progress as they go through treatment, usually being very supportive of each other. If you need to laugh to divert your thoughts, try the Awake thread or if you are simply worried and can't sleep, there is often someone Awake to chat with.
I think there will be very few of us who didn't feel shocked and numb at the point of diagnosis but once a treatment plan is sorted, there is a feeling of taking control back to fight this horrible disease.
I wish your daughter a sucessful recovery.
( .....And for you....from one mother to another......cyber hugs. I think it will almost be easier for your daughter over the next few months than for you watching on, knowing you can only be there but not physically help.)
There are lots of younger people who have also been diagnosed with bc. Perhaps your daughter would find it helpful to post too.?
There will be lots of things you will able to practically do to help. But rather than make suggestions now that cover a generalised protocol, let's wait until you know exactly what is happening next then if you still have questions or need advice.....just ask.
I feel so much better today. Caitlin had her big appointment yesterday - first with fertility and then with oncology team.
CT scan is clear which is great, she needs to get results from MRI regarding the size of her tumour. So, please please pray for 19 mm as opposed to she 23mm
When i spoke to her this morning she was so positive - she is such a control freak and now that she has info regarding her illness it is so much better for her
Well done her being positive and so she should as the prognosis is excellent for BC patients. Good that she's checking herself and brilliant they took her seriously as many younger women seem to get fobbed off.
I know it's hard for you too and you would swap places with her in a heartbeat but you are there to support her. As she's young and may have fears she's hiding it might be worth asking her if she wants to speak to someone, like a counsellor, who is detached from family so she can speak freely. Also encourage her to join this site, there is also an under 50 group, but I think this group more active . There are other youngsters on this group that she might find helpful to speak too.
So glad her CT scan clear and the lump is small. Have they given an outline of treatment?
tumour is actually larger - 28 mm. So, after IVF she will start chemo for 24 weeks w/c 20th July. She is having so much difficulty accepting that this is happening she is is so scared. I have spoken to her cancer nurse and my daughter is fighting back - i.e. don't need counselling etc and telling her to "f" off with regard to scarves.
Good news is that bone scan, mri etc indicate that there is no cancer anywhere else.
This is completely surreal, cannot believe this is happening to my daughter
I’m another Mum here who had a daughter with a different cancer (story is on my profile, It was me who 14 years later got breast cancer!) but diagnosed at 26, I can totally understand how helpless you feel, I too would have changed places in a heartbeat!
you have to stay strong for her, though, I know you say she likes to control but she may well wobble sometimes, and that’s when she will soooo need you. It might be, though, that you wobble yourself, so this is a great place to gain support, love and understanding.
So sorry to hear that your daughter has been diagnosed with breast cancer. We all deal with it in our own way and it is more of a gut response than a rational one.The treatments these days are patient centred and the outcomes are so much better than they used to be. The time may well come when she needs the help of a counsellor or support in another way. Time will tell ,in the meantime all you can do is be there for her when she is ready to talk. Remember it is a shock for yourself as well as her and coming on this site will help you to cope, and rant if you want to.Whatever you do talk about how you feel on here and there will always be someone to hold your hand virtually. Sending big hugs xxKwissy
I feel for you. I'm alot older than your daughter but I know how hard my mum has found it watching me go thru the treatment for breast cancer and I too could not accept my diagnosis and wanted to run away. Realising I would be taking the problem with me by running, I knew I had to face the treatment. I hated every minute of it. I felt I had lost control of my life. It felt as though a complete jigsaw of my lovely life had been blasted into a million pieces and now I have to try and put it back together.
You will get lots of support on here, I know I have. You will all get thru it. Somehow, someway.
