Struggling

Morning Charlieandlola

Hope the surgery went ok and you are recovering well; we are wondering how are you feeling today ?

We're all here for you if you fancy a chat

Group Hugs, G n' J

Hello

Had surgery on Monday. Went to theatre at 12.15pm and sobbed my heart out. Had lumpectomy and double reduction and ANC on left. Now the terrible wait for pathology report. Surgeon came to talk to me and said they were pleased with how it went. 

Today I've pottered around the house and waiting for a call from breast nurse. Doing exercises as shoulder is very tight. 

Stayed in hospital overnight as had a bad reaction to general anesthetic so didnt come home till Tuesday evening.

Husband trying to look after me

Thanks all for asking xxxxxx

Julie 

Hi Julie

hope you get looked after well and that you soon recover from your surgery 

Hello

I'm feeling really down and cant stop crying xxx

Hello Charlieandlola,

Sorrry that you are crying but it is part of many peoples reaction post operation. You have had a big operation and it will take time for everything to settle down again. Small steps lead to recovery both physical and mental.Be kind to yourself and rest as needed, what I'm trying to say is listen to your body- this isn't a sprint it's a marathon.I'm no expert but I have found  "talking" to others on this and other threads will hopefully help.Sending big but very gentle hugs to you.xx

Hi Charlieandlola

           Sorry you’re so sad. The waiting is so awful. I had x3 surgery and waiting to find out the dates then waiting to find out when I would get the results then waiting for the results it seems to go on and on. But then you get them and things move on to the next stage and things do progress. I would have plans in my head I.e if I haven’t heard by next Wed when my date is I’ll phone the breast care nurse, this helped me. I also signed up for Macmillan telephone buddy system and speak to a lovely lady with similar breast cancer but who has now finished her treatment. Wishing you well xxx

Hello Charlieandlola,

I can only echo the words Kwissy has wrote.  I will add from what you have said, along with how many of us feel at this time and m own thoughts....

You have gone from all the rushing, the waiting, the uncertainty of it all, your own feelings, your own feelings with regards to your husband - you have and are going thought so very much. On top of this you will find in a way you are grieving for the old you - the you that you was before this all started.... she has gone now, so the crying will be natural your life has been completely thrown in the air and landed all jumbled up..... like a jigsaw, you will get through this, it will take time, it will take a lot of thinking about, a lot of you time, a lot of healing and with all this comes the tears. Plus you have the added worry of your results, by the sounds of it, your surgeon is pleased - so no letting your mind run over time to you thinking up all different scenarios - just keep focused on 'it' is 'out' - you have done so well.  You now need time to recover - no pushing yourself, no trying to gain any brownie points. Just think about you - you can do this... don't read any signs into your husbands behaviour (it is more than likely genuine showing concern, but keep in mind he has another woman - so you make sure 'you care about you and only you' - this is the start of your new life   it is, you will get though this a lot stronger.

Sending love and hugs to you - Very Brave - You Really are - Well Done - now rest and take each day one day at a time xxx

hello I hope and pray you will get better soon  xxx

Hello lovely @Charlieandlola

it’s totally normal; don’t underestimate the effects of the anaesthetic- it seems to take weeks to fully leave you alone, added to the drugs, the lent up anxiety you’ve had and still have whilst waiting for what feels like a 100 years for the results. If the surgeon was pleased then it went well- trust them, they know. We are all keeping every digit crossed for you, but no matter what, you will have support. The aftercare teams are excellent, they really do care and there’s nothing they haven’t heard. Contact them, share the burden, get advice. It’s not all on your shoulders hun. It’s baby steps- each day is a new day to repair. Sleep when you want to, move about not when you’re feeling brighter- trust your body it will tell you what you need xx

sending massive love and hugs to you 
xx

Hi Charlieandlola

sorry you are feeling sad. You have had a major operation and an anesthetic plays havoc with your emotions. You will start to feel better in a few days but rest and take care of yourself.

Sending big hugs. We are all here for you.

Linda x