Feeling guilty about not finding the lump earlier

Hi Sarah

It is a normal emotion when you are diagnosed with bc.

I had my regular 3 yearly mammogram,  no symptoms but was subsequently diagnosed with DCIS .Had a mastcetomy and pathology showed a 30mm tumour. I have dense breast tissue so tumour was not found till after my surgery. Due to start chemo next week.

You will find this site full of information and support. It has been invaluable to me so feel free to ask any questions as  there will be someone here who can help you.

Good luck with your surgery on Wednesday. 

Take care

Linda x

Hello, Sarah.

As someone, who found out that I had Breast Cancer, as a result of my three { 3.} yearly Mammogram. I can understand your bewilderment.

I personally went into denial. I checked my Breasts regularly; not because of the  Mammogram, but I felt that it was an important routine that I had to undertake.

I felt no lumps or bumps whatsoever. I felt if I dear admit it, rather smug with myself!  I had told the medical team all my history. Everything, in my opinion, was as it should be.

When I was shown my X-Ray, I still didn't comprehend what was happening to me. But it was having the Mammogram that undoubtedly saved me from having a much more difficult. time

Please, try and stop blaming yourself. There is nothing that you could have done if it's in your Genes; than your chances of catching Cancer or higher then anybody else. Like me with Cancer in my family.

I feel that by having the Mammogram and undertaking my course of treatment, that I'm lucky. My Cancer was caught early.

I'm now at the stage where I can accept for most of the time calmly,  what has happened to me, but the other day I did panic when I thought that Ild mucked up badly with my prescription.

One day you won't blame yourself for something that is not your fault.

Best wishes.

Pickled Cucumber.

Thanks Linda

for your reply. It helps to realise that other people feel the same when diagnosed. 
Hope all goes well with your chemo 

Its good to talk

Sarah xx

Hi Pickled Cucumber ( l like pickled gherkins not sure about pickled cucumber ) 

Thanks for your kind words and wish you all the best 

You must be a strong lady. My husband is being very good. But l really miss my children & grandchildren. My 7 yrs old granddaughter asked about me going into hospital. I replied that l was going in for some medicine. 
All the best Sarah xx

Hi SarahHa,

Sorry to hear that you have joined the club no-one wantsto join.But you have joined this group which is a very good start.Don't feel guilty it is a waste of time and effort ,just read the other threads and you will soon not feel so alone.Everyone on here will help and support you and are an invaluable source of information. Try looking at the Awake thread ,it made me smile even when I didn't feel like it (yes really)

I think all of us diagnosed in this pandemic are feeling even more shell shocked than usual but we will get through it all and be better people for it.I am quite early in this having had lumpectomy and sentinel node removal at the end of April. All of the medical and nursing staff I have met on the way have been so kind and understanding, I cannot praise them enough.

Please take advantage of the huge source of information here from others both patients and professionals.I wish you all the best in your forthcoming surgery and hope that we will both be able to meet up with our family very soon. xxx