New to the group

Good evening ,

Welcome to the group that none of us wanted to join.  Well done for finding us and if you ever have sleepless nights its always good to have a look at the 'Awake' thread - there is lots of conversations going on in there... any time of day and night - although of late the nights do seem quite, which I suppose is a good thing really.

You will get through this, you have come so far already in such a short time without even realising this, the waiting is always the really hard part, try not to make it the focus of each day, you have had the operation so keep remembering 'it' is out of you now and if everything goes well you will move on to the next stage of treatment.

Please try to be positive, you will find this a strange road you are travelling, people behaviour very strongly to you and you finding that you will flip from happy to tears, then there is the outbursts of anger.  Its such a strange place to be.... put remember you will get thought this, these feelings will change with time - for now take it one day at a time - once you have your results you will know the next line of treatment.

Any questions, worries or concerns just ask away, there is so much knowledge in this group, no questions are ever silly and between us - I am sure one of us can help, even if its in a small way.  

Remember, now you have found us..... You are not alone

Sending love and hugs xxxx

Hi and another warm welcome. Sorry you find yourself here but it’s a great place for support and shared experiences. As WhatHappened has already said so well, the waiting and worrying is tortuous. I think I was a ‘focus on the moment’ type, I had a few post op issues, mainly a large haematoma, so had a bit of to-ing and fro-ing with the breast nurses, which somehow helped to pass some of that time between op and results. It’s a bit of a blur, that period of time, I really think I was in a daze. I did try to get out each day even just for a short walk, and, long term, walking has become my sanity saver. You’ll find yours. 

Main message is that we do get through this, breast cancer is very treatable and it’s definitely better once you have your results and know more about what you’re dealing with as well as the likely treatment options. Can you take someone with you to your results appointment? I went alone for the initial tests but wanted hubby there for any results as I knew I’d find it difficult to take it all in. 

Wishing you well, keep posting and asking questions, sending love and gentle hugs, HFxx 

Hi Happy Feet,

Thanks and in the sensible part of me, I know I am surrounded by family and friends who will support me, I think the main problem with me is I’m a bit of a control freak, and this is out if my control and It’s thatI’m struggling with.

I’ve always been a giver, the one everyone came to for help, but I am where I am and will come to terms with it, thanks again for the support, 

Mimix

Hi Mimi, It’s very hard at the beginning but you will through it, I had Lumpectomy 3 year’s ago and full node clearance, I have my third mammogram on the 16th, try to stay positive and come on here for advice . Good luck.

Hi Boobylou,

Thank you, I will try to stay positive as you say, and I hope all is well with you and that you stay that way, I’ll be waiting for your good newsxx

mimi121

Hi ,welcome to the group, it's been a very supportive place for me since my diagnosis in November.  Lots of good advice already  

I know what you mean about one of the hardest things being a lack of control over the situation. I try and not look too far ahead and deal with things as they come up (not always easy I know). A big help for me was contacting my Macmillan centre when I was feeling a bit stronger mentally. I booked an appointment rather than just turning up and it was so helpfull to just talk to someone about everything.  My breast nurse is lovely but obviously we focus on the cancer. At McMillan we talked about all the random things that were worrying me like having to be away from home for 3 weeks for radiotherapy,  how to tell people,  all sorts really. I got signed up for free complementary therapies, look good feel better day etc. Its definitely worth doi g if/when you feel ready. 

Hope you dont have yo wait too long for your results xxx