Mum diagnosed with BC - Please help

Hello Conor

i’m so sorry to hear about your Mum. I think I can answer both of your questions...

Firstly, only a medical professional can give your Mum any idea of the prognosis and likely treatment. Every body is different and there are many different types of BC and treatment. Try to concentrate on what is happening right now, today rather than ifs and buts as these can drive you crazy.

Secondly, just ask your Mum how you can best support her. When I was diagnosedI only wanted my husband for company. I didn’t want to see or speak to anybody else and some people found that hurtful while others understood. If you ask hopefully she will be honest and what she wants/needs might change regularly.

I wish you and Mum all the best for a positive future x 

Hi 

Welcome to the community that nobody really wants to belong to but are so glad to find it .

I won't repeat the Good advice given to you by  but would just reaffirm it 

My story is on profile just click on name and you can read .If you haven't filled one in then do it if you can , it helps when replying.

The waiting is the worst part once you have a diagnosis and treatment plan it does feel better .

please do keep coming on to post if you feel the need to rant ,rave ,ask question or just chat . There's room for mum as well if she wants to join in . Try not to google it is usually out of date .

margaret x

Hi  

i agree with the other ladies comments above. For me (you can read my story on my profile) I wanted to be able to get the results straight in my head before discussing any details/plans with my grown up children. I agree the waiting is the very hard part, not to be underestimated. I wanted my girls to treat me as normal, still calling me for a moan after a difficult day at work still going for a coffee - this is an illness it doesn’t define you. My youngest daughter used to come on here a lot to ask questions and sound off it really helped her, so please continue doing that. Margaret is right too google is not your friend - we are all different and so us the cancer and treatment. 
I wish you and your mum all the good luck I can muster

Eileen xxx