Adolescent son with MH issues

FormerMember over 5 years ago

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Hi, I’m not sure it’s appropriate to post this here as it’s not directly related to my BC however I know you are lovely people out there with a wealth of experience and always ready to offer a virtual hug.

On Monday my step son went missing after I dropped him at the train station, once we noticed and reported to the police his phone was tracked to Beachy Head (we live in East Sussex).

It was all to do with him being due to return to university the next day. He has done one year and now we understand has been struggling with the work, missed some exams last term and really not enjoying it. Bless him, we are so sad he couldn’t let anyone know how he was feeling. His Dad, sister and I had concerns over the summer but every time we tried to talk to him he said I’m FINE.

Has anyone else experienced anything similar? I know his age group are statistically high for suicide. He had left a note at his other home which he would have written on the Friday before coming here.

Anyway, he is still with us thank goodness, relieved it is all out and has some ideas about what to do instead. Everyone around him has been supportive and understanding.

Would like to compare notes with anyone who has been here.

Thank you

Northerner over 5 years ago

So sorry your Step son has been going thru trauma . The experience that we had with our grandson was not quite so frightening .

He was about 17 finished school with good results but he is on autistic spectrum along with EDS and other linked problems . He is high functioning so very aware of his prob .He was with us at caravan when mum rang us to say friends were worried by what he was posting . The only thing we could do st the time was keep him close . When he was back home his mum did what you have managed to do and get him to open up .

I think this is what is needed then to support his decision that uni not right for him . We had to spend a lot of time reassuring George that he wasn’t a failure because he wasn’t able to continue his studies .

Only you and your family will be able to judge if he needs outside help . Hope fully now he has spoken about his problems and with all the love that is surrounding him he will find a path that is right for him x George is now 22 and just got engaged . No A levels but works p/t in coffee house whilst running car shows and car photography business x

One step at a time and ...Breathe !

xoxox

Margaret

Northerner over 5 years ago

Margaret x

One step at a time and ...Breathe !

xoxox

Margaret

Londonmumof2 over 5 years ago in reply to Northerner

Hi I think that my DM went through to you, but it showed with my name! Let me know, and I'll try to resend it if you haven't got it. X

“Remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Stephen Hawking,

FormerMember over 5 years ago in reply to Londonmumof2

Thanks for your responses and kind words.

I have replied to your PM Londonmumof2, thank you so much. It is all frightening.

The MH team rang him today, he has told them he doesn't need any counselling or input. My concern is that he is so overwhelmed with relief he is over estimating the level of his mental well-being.

I guess time will tell and we need to be vigilant and keep trying to get him better at talking to us.

Thank you

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