Doesn’t feel really

Hi All

Breast Cancer is a bit of a cow really. Many of us feel perfectly well as we get the diagnosis. We go into hospital perfectly well and come out feeling grim. Sometimes the treatments make us feel even worse.

All you can do is keep going, take the time to enjoy being well and do a bit of planning. A few freezer meals is good. In the olden days the surgery did come a bit quicker but it is what it is now. I reassured myself with the idea that if they aren't rushing me in ,it can't be that bad.

You are definitely not nuts. We call ourselves fruitless on here. Much nicer don't you think.

Keep in touch

Fruitloops not fruitless. You will love the spell checker on here.

Hi Flo3332002

you can read my story on my profile

Firstly glad you found us and welcome to the group that nobody really wants to be on . 

As you can read on my profile I also had no lump and also a very reassuring radiology team on call back assessment . It is very hard to accept no matter how you find out ! I had a very short time from diagnosis to surgery ,I had to force myself to say to say the words out loud to convince myself   Now that does sound nuts !! 

The worst thing is the waiting between appointments etc. Usually you can feel better once you know what is happening.

please take time to read different stories on here and join in discussion so that you can make sense of what is happening . You will find people will cone along to help you and answer any questions x

Dearest , 

Welcome again to the 'Nut House' we have all progressed and are now 'Fruit Loops' hahaha - you will fit right in.

You will have so many different emotions and thoughts.  Once you have you treatment plan and know what is happening you will start to move forward.

If you are having a lumpectomy followed by radiotherapy - you will feel well following the operation.  I had never had an operation before and could not believe how the operation site of lumpectomy 'did NOT hurt' - the Sentinel Node Biopsy thought was 'sore' afterwards - it didn't hurt, just a sore feeling 'every now and then'.

I believe most that have this treatment do feel well and carry on life as normal as possible, half joking.... until we start on the adjuvant treatment, a daily tablet for 5 or 10 years to help stop re-occurance, this is okay, although some of us have side effects that revolve around our bodies adjusting to less oestrogen in our bodies.

I had a combined operation, called TARGET IORT (Inter-Operative Radiotherapy Treatment) this was the lumpectomy with radiation given to the operation area at the same time - so all done in one operation, avoiding weeks of radiotherapy.  This IS available on the NHS, although many Consultants do not tell patients that it is available because it is only carried out in a few hospitals, (you can ask to be referred under the Book and Choose).

Other Fruit Loops may post on how they felt following their operation. Depending what your treatment plan is, it can all be different, however, what you have to remember is 'it is all do-able' - I have read posts from ladies that have managed chemo with hardly any issues, I do believe that with the support on this group, whatever treatment you have we will be able to get you through it.

When it does start sinking in that you have BC you may start to have temper tantrums and melt downs - don't worry if you do, this is normal, you will get though it all.

I only told a few people, I did not want to give BC any oxygen, I didn't want to be 'that' person, the one with BC and to be honest, it has worked for me, although some days I do think I am/was in denial with it all and other days I'd have a melt down.

If you find your awake during the night - there is a thread called 'AWAKE' anyone can write on here day or night - for most of us it is the 'go to place' during the night for company, advise, a laugh or to ask LondonLass if Lucky Pants is available to go along to appointments, to give strength during this time - he can be a little terror though haha 

Sending love and hugs xx

Hi and welcome  to add to WhatHappened, Silverberg and Northener said, a welcome hug

Remember as has been said...it can be a bit like our brain 'squints'...trying to minimise the full impact as a coping mechanism....and sometimes emotions can rush out of nowhere. Any and all reactions are normal.

Take care