I’ve previously posted as to why I hate this campaign, but I’ve recently had a new perspective which makes me dislike it even more.
This year my friend was diagnosed with rectal cancer. She now has a colostomy bag, which she will have for life. She is having chemotherapy, but it won’t make her loose her hair. I have been present when cancer has come up in conversation, and people have asked her about hair loss. On discovering she will keep her hair, the comments have ranged from “your cancer can’t be that bad” to “well your treatments must be easy”. She feels like the campaign is completely trivialising her condition, as the general public seem to have the idea that unless you loose your hair, you don’t have ‘proper’ cancer.
I’m assuming that those who have had ‘just’ radiotherapy, would have similar views.
Hi Scots Lol,
I just literally posted a similar post and now found yours too. Completely agree and interestingly I used the word trivialise too.
It makes me feel so uncomfortable and also a victim. I have lost my hair but no celebration, no party for me just the lonely unexpressed thoughts and worries about if when and how it will grow back. I would be horrified if any of my friends or family did this.
Janet
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Agreed. I wonder who conceived the idea?
I'm sitting here now pulling strands out with my fingers to ease the itching (day 17, 1st EC chemo), and have collected about a week's worth in the hour of so I've sat here. Two wigs ordered, and neither here yet, with chemo number 2 next Tuesday....and I'm too old to go bald and look good:(
Oh, well, better go shopping before I pull it all out lol.
, that is just dreadful , how cruel and ignorant some people are! Xx
Onwards and flatwards (don't do hills) and keep walking if you can!
ScotsLol that’s really thoughtless and ignorant.
and LondonMumof2, I hope it doesn’t make you feel bad too....
and GoldFinch, you too, please nobody feel hurt that this campaign has reared a head again......
It also shows, I think, how this campaign has been so thoughtlessly put together. Not everyone loses their hair with chemo, and it trivialises the whole illness. Of course, not everyone who goes through cancer treatment actually has to have chemo, either. And therefore how does it make them feel?
I have always felt the campaign is wrong, and now I know even more about cancer and it’s treatment, my opinions deepen.
hugs xxx
Moomy
Not bad as the shavers are doing a good thing raising money for charity to fund nurses (150 in three years is a big deal), and I imagine quite a few will also donate their hair to the Little Princess Trust. I just wish that it could used to educate people a little about different treatments and experiences people with cancer have, so that it feels inclusive.
I feel bad that in the next few weeks I'll probably be bald or have short, patchy and wispy hair and it isn't a good look for me personally, especially combined with the chemo tah in my face!
Hi Scots lol
I'm one of those who've just had radiotherapy.
I trivialize my own cancer! First lot was twelve years ago, 20 sessions. I'm about to start on another session. 15 I think this time. Maybe I was lucky, in that at 50 apart from making me sore, like bad sunburn, I was ok. However further down this road I am aware of constant tiny niggles in the shoulder and breast.
I always say I had it easy. Even this time I know I've said it. But really no cancer is easy. My mum has had skin cancer on her forehead. Her treatment was so good they managed to cure her and take all the wrinkles out of her forehead at the same time.
But, the cancer is still emotionally inside us both, always there. A bit like a cloud crossing the sun on a bright day.
People are well meaning and really only those who belong to this club know what it's like. So it's up to us members to gently put people right while saying thank you to those who are helping us.
Thats my personal reason for hating the campaign.
i didn’t go to a hairdresser and get a close crop. Mine like yours, started falling out in clumps, It actually hurt. I got mine shaved in an effort to ease the pain/distress. It still hurt, like tiny needles pressing into my head when I laid on a pillow. (Running a lint roller over my head a few times a day, helped).
My hair didn’t start growing back immediately, I was completely bald for 6 months.
I couldn’t play up the eye makeup and ‘rock’ the look, because I had no eyebrows or eyelashes. I looked like an alien. I barely recognised myself.
I did manage to accept it, and mostly went out bald, but I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
good luck with your treatment.
I thought I was alone in hating this campaign. I lost my hair/eyelashes/brows recently during treatment for Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia and hate it. I weep when I hear of people deliberately shaving their hair in the name of charity, it seems to minimise the impact that this has on its real victims. Stick to baking buns etc which everyone enjoys whilst making much needed funds towards MacMillan Nurses.
Totally agree Shelleyyy .
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