27, and can't believe i have cancer

Hi ,

I'm so sorry to hear this you are so young. I know none of us want this rubbish but for someone at 27 it is especially rotten. I am answering because I had stage 1 grade 1 and I did not have to have chemo, but mine was oestrogen positive so they can give tablets. Maybe it is best to have every treatment available to absolutely knock it on the head then you can go forward with the rest of your life. I very much hope your Mum is still around to help you through this time.  This time next year it will all be behind you stay strong xxx

Hello ,

Oh my lovely just wanted to reply to you. It is really shit that you have a dx at your young age. I was 43 when I was given my dx. I just want to say that you can use the cold cap to stop you losing your hair - it isn't that bad. I don't know you will definitely have chemo, but honestly it was nowhere as bad as I expected it to be. It was completely do-able. Radiotherapy is then a walk in the park after chemo. I don't know if you have to have a mx - if you do then you can have implants or a diep. My boobs look just great in a bra, they are a little  bit wonky on there own - but not many people will ever see me without a bra these days. I absolutely have not lost my femininity! If any thing, I feel more empowered now. 

Please don't feel angry and frustrated. Cancer does not discriminate, however shit it may sound. You are not in control but you will have a team that are looking over you and in here you have the best support you ever can get. Please post because there are lots of people here that can support you. I don't know how I would have coped without this website.

Cwtches, 

Gay xxx

Hi 

I'd like to welcome you with a group hug

This is a shock and must seem so very unfair. You have come to a great place with a fabulous bunch who can give support, advice, a shoulder, a hug and  where you can rant and voice your fears. During the night when things can seem worse and you can feel quite alone there is the Awake thread... Yes with others who are also awake. When appropriate there are also silly smiles.

There are different bits of the site that you may find particularly helpful such as those for younger adults and I'm sure more techy types will be able to provide you with the relevant links.

Of course you are worried about the future and your son whilst remembering your childhood experiences.

Firstly , of course your situation brings back to you your emotions from that time but the outlook for you is good. Secondly, there is help for and understanding of the many family situations in which folk find themselves, so partners who don't cope well etc are familiar here. Please don't automatically think this spells disaster for your partnership.

You don't say how old your son is but there are advice and resources to help you decide what and when to share with him.

As you were being proactive in arranging preventative surgery, this must feel like an unwarranted kick in the teeth. 

You can do this

Take care