Emotions

This is a common reaction .......you might try the article by Peter Harvey, you can google his name . His article helped me understand and it is often mentioned on this site , best wishes .....x

Morning   this is something i worry about. I was diagnosed with BC 11 months ago, i have dealt with it surprisingly well, like you had the odd days when i had meltdowns and cried but over all dealt with it well. But over the last month i've started getting anxious, feeling low and angry with people around me who i feel really don't understand how i feel. I'm still having treatment and will get my results from my mastectomy next week, so hoping once i get them i'll feel better. But i do find coming here and off loading to people who get me helps. I have even been known to come here write a post feeling sorry for myself then deleted it because i've felt better just for writing it.

Have you been to see your doctor? they can maybe give you something to help you through this time and help you back to your old self.

So you've done the best thing today, come talk to us, we get you and you will get people like me who feel the same. 

Hi JollyJo,

You're describing a perfectly normal reaction to a life-changing event.  Being diagnosed with cancer is a shock and we will all deal with it differently, but will all almost certainly have strong reactions that sometimes surprise us.  I've had hysterical meltdowns in the middle of the night, sobbing uncontrollably, and yet everyone at my work sees me as a very calm and serene person!  I would recommend a book called The Cancer Survivor's Companion.  It's written by a UK psychologist so it's pretty down-to-earth with its advice.  I don't know if you are near a Maggie's Centre or similar but our local one has a library and you can borrow the book.

Has your husband thought about seeking some counselling to better help him understand what you are going through?  Maggie's and the cancer charities such as MacMillan will offer these services.

Best wishes,

Linda xx

Hi ...thanks for sharing this.I don’t feel such a freak now.But for me,it was when my brother was diagnosed I had the same,although my own diagnosis didnt affect me like that ,just made mw scared.X I hooe you find the help you need x

Hi Jo, 

Hope you are feeling better.  I had a hard time accepting my diagnosis.  It is quite a blow.

We just have to give it to God.

He's got our backs.

He has,,I have recently had good reson to believe this Xxx