The agony of waiting...

Morning we have all been where you are and we all felt in some way the same. The waiting is the worse part of all of this poopiness as your mind takes over and always thinks of the worse case scenario.

The aches and pains everywhere, you will find lots of us had them and continue to do so. I even got that when i had a headache i was asking, is it more painful than normal, has it lasted longer than usual. I felt the same as you, i walked into the clinic thinking i was perfectly healthy to be told i had breast cancer, but How?? I don't feel poorly, but thats how sneaky the little b***er is. 

Don't struggle, talk to us, thats what we are here for, i have been here since the day i found out and the place has offered me so much support its amazing. You might think but they're only people online but they have got me through some of my hardest day and i have shared my best days with them too. Before you know it you're giving out advice too and that feels just if not even more amazing knowing you have helped someone else.

As for the replying, if you click reply it just adds your post to the bottom. You can tag people which will then highlight their name and notify them that someone has sent a reply to them. To do that you type @ then start typing their name, it will appear in a drop down thing and click on their name and it will show. 

You'll be an expert in no time, keep talking to us, big hugs for you xxx

thank you so much. It's hard not to feel like I'm going a bit crazy. I want to find out my diagnosis and plan but at the same time the thought of it makes me feel sick. Well it's a lovely sunny day so I will try and distract myself. I don't usually say this but I would rather be at work! Anyway thank you so much for your message - and the tutorial! Your support is really appreciated xx

Hi Janet

Like you I was diagnosed last week and saw Consultant on Thursday who gave me my results and plan

I know its a scary time and things seem sureal but keep thinking positive everyone is here for you... hugs

thank you so much xx

once you have your plan and start treatment it will be easier, i think of it this way, it is what it is and worrying about it won't make it go away it will just make it more difficult to cope with, so grab the bull by the horns and lets get this kicked xx It's not easy but it is doeable and you will do this xxx

Hi ,

You're not going crazy, the physical symptoms you are experiencing are probably anxiety, people assimilate fear in different ways. This feeling won't  last ,it is something you are going through, not something you are going to stay in forever.

I was diagnosed in Aug 2015 and I stick around on this site to 'haul the newbies into the lifeboats' as Carolyn28 says.

There are many stages and grades of breast cancer with different receptors which can all be treated. For example my tumour was 12mm and was grade 1 stage 1 and ER positive and I just had a lumpectomy (scar almost invisible now) 15 radiotherapy (doesn't hurt at all) and tablets for 10 years (that's another story, pain in the arse). So although it is utter poo to have the thing at all it may not be as bad as you are thinking. They don't know a thing until they have those cells under a microscope.

Hold on these day's will pass and keep on posting, that is what we are here for, to haul you into the lifeboat, honestly you're not going to sink xxx 

Hi

Sorry you find yourself here. You are definitely in the right place for help and support though.

A nurse told me one way or another your body has to react to a traumatic situation, it has to come out somehow so your sickness and aches and pains could be a manifestation of that. 

Please keep popping back on x

Snowys Mum I like your metaphor - I really do feel like I need a lifeboat right now. It really helps to connect with others who know how it feels to be in this position. 

The lady who did my ultrasound told me she thought I might have lobular (I think that's the correct term) bc. I've looked it up and it seems that's not the 'best' type to have. I'm in a constant battle with myself not to google because as soon as I do I feel helpless and horribly scared. 

Thank you for your message - honestly it is helping so much to speak to people on here xx

Beachwalker19 thank you. I haven't cried yet. I've always dealt with anything stressful by bottling it all up so I guess it has to come out somehow. Plus I'm holding it all in for my 11 yr old daughter who doesn't know yet. Thanks again for your message of support x