Hi everyone, I’ve just been diagnosed with breast cancer, I don’t know what stage, all I know is it’s not oestrogen receptive or what it’s called but I’m waiting on the Her2 to come back. Not sure what all this means really. It’s all sunk in and I’ve told my three children, 7, 5 and 2 although 5 and 2 year olds don’t really understand. I think I’ll be having chemo first for 6 rounds over 18 weeks then surgery and possibly radiotherapy. I see the oncologist on Thursday so will hopefully know more. My mum lives up the road and is driving me mad keeps saying my house is too messy and I’ll make myself ill if I don’t get on and spring clean it... I have three young children who like to play with toys so the mess is their stuff and we have animals so my house isn’t a show home by any means. Ive done all the crying, I now just want it gone by however means necessary. Sorry for long post. 
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Hi, LLL,
it sounds as though your diagnosis is similar to my daughter’s. Hers is HER2+.
She is 37 with two under 5’s and was diagnosed on Christmas Eve.
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She is on TCHP chemo for 6 sessions, every 3 weeks. The H is Herceptin, which will continue after the rest of the chemo for 12 more cycles.
Surgery will remove the tumour, which should have shrunk by then, in fact they fitted coils to mark where the tumour was in case it’s not obvious on surgery day!
Then, once she has healed, she will have radiotherapy daily for 4 weeks.
Not easy with little ones to look after, it’s been a very steep learning curve with ups and downs aplenty , but we are all helping in various ways and she is now on chemo cycle 4, so we are making progress.
Let Mum help, she can do the spring cleaning if she is worried!
Let us know how you get on.
Best Wishes, S.
hi
Have you told your mum your diagnosis and how you feel . ?
cuddle her and tell her your frightened , she will be too .
Dont really want you to use shock but say to her that your children want memories with you not of a clean house . This is true whether we live a month or 100 years . No one looks back and say “ she had a clean house “ .
Maybe that’s what your mum needs as she will feel helpless , so say “ mum if you could do the spring clean then that would be brilliant “ I for one love doing mummy stuff ( cleaning) for my sons !
Hugs
love
Ruby Rose 
Love , it’s ok to have a messy house with little ones . Just love them and nurture them ... it will make you happy 
. Tell the older children’s school.... they will support them very well . Tell your mum how you are feeling . Share all you worries here . We will see you through. I’m giving you a big big hug . You can do this love ... you really can . Xxxxxxxxx Twinkle51
The best advice given to me was “ take it one step at a time” . Twinkle51 xx
