Of counselling

FormerMember over 6 years ago

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Hi All,

have reached a stage after 8 months of treatment and keeping jolly and brushing the situation off as something trivial Of having now gone into full blown meltdown mode. I can't afford to breakdown and have any of this impact on work etc. I prefer the idea of living in a flat than living under a bridge with my worldly goods in an abandoned shopping trolley so I have to keep going no matter what as I am all I've got.

not previously been a fan of counselling (tried it once and it traumatised me more than the traumatic event did ha ha). However I am wondering if it might be the answer for current state of mind. The other issue I have if go down counselling route, it means another apt to fit in and another place to get to which can be difficult and costly when you don't drive. I wonder if it can happen over phone or the Internet these days?

has anybody gone down that road, or should one just grow a pair and plough on through?

Have so much guilt and feelings of being a failure at not being in a better place. Which is silly I know but can't get past it ugh.

i need a jolly good slap and a stern Buck up your ideas missy lecture ha ha

xxxxxx

FormerMember over 6 years ago

Have you by any chance had a read through a paper by Dr Peter Harvey titled 'After The Treatment Finishes: Then What ?'

It helped us get our heads around what the heck just happened, maybe it can help you come to terms with putting this behind you so you can move on too.

I'll place the link below, it starts off a bit slow, but soon starts to make sense of everything you have been through.

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cfs-file/__key/communityserver-discussions-components-files/38/2570.After_2D00_the_2D00_treatment_2D00_finishes_2D00_then_2D00_what.pdf

Hope you find it useful, take care, G n' J

FormerMember over 6 years ago

Hi Spinningrose65

I attend CBT counselling, for PTSD from a past experience. I went through 3 counsellors before finding the one I have now and she is absolutely amazing. I would suggest to keep trying, if you feel up to it of course

I hope all goes well for you xx

FormerMember over 6 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Hi Dreamthief, yes! I have read this some time back but thanks for the reminder, I shall revisit it - definitely a good piece and probably be more pertinent in current state! Xx

FormerMember over 6 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Hi OCRkate, thanks for the reply. CBT actually a better option and I'd not considered that. I shall look at options and hopefully find someone and something that fits.

hope all goes well for you too xx

OffForARun over 1 year ago

Hi, sorry to hear things are feeling so hard right now. I have had therapy in the past for self confidence post having babies and also for divorce. I have tried CBT and Psychotherapy. I would say that it all depends on the therapist and your two-way connection. It definitely is worth seeking out a few options and having an initial chat with them - you'll probably get a good feel from that who you would prefer to work with. There is a one-pager that many CBT therapists share on 'unhelpful/helpful thinking', I've attached it below in case useful. Note: I am not a CBT therapist, my only experience is having CBT therapy myself.

Sending love, light and strength x

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