I wondered if ladies might like a thread for a 'thought of the day' as something that has helped or is helping them through this journey.
It just occurred to me this morning in respect of the fear that comes along with being diagnosed with breast cancer and other people who haven't had it, but seem to think it's so easy ;) of something that I wish I had said to these people
When I was first diagnosed, I had a couple of close friends who had absolutely no understanding of the mental impact and said "oh such and such had that and they were fine" type thing. My worry about it and any need for support was forgotten as soon as they had said it!
So, my thought of the day for people who have no understanding:
"Imagine you are stood on a cliff edge in a gale. There is a 50% chance that a huge gust of wind will blow you over the cliff edge into the stormy sea below. How would you feel stood there?"
I think looking back, that this what I felt when diagnosed - the not knowing whether it would be ok or not and being told 'so and so was fine, blah, blah' was to me extremely annoying. But at the same time for someone who hasn't had cancer will try to come out with platitudes and can never really understand even if they want to- so this analogy would perhaps have helped them understand the fear that comes with being told you have cancer.
Anyone else have any 'thought for the day"?
You haven't missed posts from Judith, we are all very worried about her as she's not been on the site for so long. I've asked the Mac team a couple of times to see if she's ok, but I'm guessing due to data protection they aren't allowed to tell me anything, I have let them know how many people are very worried about her and we are missing our 'little miss sunshine'.
Thank you Lesley for letting me know. I am so worried. Since the passing of Pia I know that Judith is alone and this is worrying me. Judith is definitely our 'little miss sunshine' ....
and sorry for the delay - I didn't see your reply 
Dearest Violetsniff,
I am pinching your thoughts ..... I need to try something, feel like I'm going mad and if I'm truthful, can't take much more of how this site is been messed around with and destroyed ... think I'll start with the 'dopamine reward' ... eat food 
Stay Safe Violetsniff xxx
Nice One Northerner!!
oh,and WhatHappened!sorry I have only just seen your response !well,I think the oxytocin responses are fab...I just need a baby to cuddle or someone to hug....back in a jiffy!!
Has anyone else found it is hard not giving hugs?I really think we need this outlet .
I can’t say it might be a bit unhealthy to eat too much as I have spent tonight eating half a box of After Eights (which were a Christmas present!!)I just had to have it !!xx
Dear lesleyhelen,
This is heart wrenching not knowing how Judith, without fail Judith would post uplifting 'thoughts of the day' and now, well Judith is my 'thought of the day'.
I truly pray Judith is safe and well - Amen
For now, we miss you Judith 
Yes,WhatHappenedI will pray for jmp too.......
Sorry for the delay in replying WhatHappened Yes, it is really concerning. I've not heard anything from the Mac team and another lady from the breast group has sent a card to her address, but nothing back. Very worrying for us all 
Owww lesleyhelen, this is so sad, I wonder if the lady could send a 'to anyone - can't think of the right words'. This is very sad. Do you think the Mac Team would hear such things, I wonder if anyone has a phone number for Judith. I feel so very sad that we none of us can contact Judith. I recall at one point did she say she was going to stay at her sisters hmmm - this as just come back to me - I just don't know
