I wondered if ladies might like a thread for a 'thought of the day' as something that has helped or is helping them through this journey.
It just occurred to me this morning in respect of the fear that comes along with being diagnosed with breast cancer and other people who haven't had it, but seem to think it's so easy ;) of something that I wish I had said to these people
When I was first diagnosed, I had a couple of close friends who had absolutely no understanding of the mental impact and said "oh such and such had that and they were fine" type thing. My worry about it and any need for support was forgotten as soon as they had said it!
So, my thought of the day for people who have no understanding:
"Imagine you are stood on a cliff edge in a gale. There is a 50% chance that a huge gust of wind will blow you over the cliff edge into the stormy sea below. How would you feel stood there?"
I think looking back, that this what I felt when diagnosed - the not knowing whether it would be ok or not and being told 'so and so was fine, blah, blah' was to me extremely annoying. But at the same time for someone who hasn't had cancer will try to come out with platitudes and can never really understand even if they want to- so this analogy would perhaps have helped them understand the fear that comes with being told you have cancer.
Anyone else have any 'thought for the day"?
Judith xxx
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Judith xxx
Judith xxx
Judith xxx
Judith xxx
Easter is a good time to reflections and new beginnings.
And whilst this image is inspired by the Japanese art of kintsugi, I feel it is still appropriate.
Kintsugi - meaning 'golden seams' - is the repair of a broken object with gold powder, emphasising its scars as as part of its history. Showing that nothing is ever truly broken and that there is strength and beauty in imperfection.
So I say this to you, even though it can be really hard, embrace your scars - physical or mental. They are what make you who you are today. Even if you feel less or broken. These cracks will heal in their own way. You may not be who you were yesterday - but you are still you.
The pain of grief is a sign of the love you have had in your life. Remember those precious happy moments.
The pain of fear is a sign of what you have now that you do not want to lose. Appreciate every day, even if just one small moment.
So please take a moment to reflect on where you are today and how much you have been through. How strong you have been to get to this moment in time. How flawed and beautiful and tragic and amazing life is and you are.
Remember that you love and have been loved. Scars and all.
Happy Easter friends.
