But not a very patient one!
I've at least got a diagnosis, it's invasive ductal cancer grade 2, but still small, oestrogen receptive but looks as if I might get away with the lymph nodes....and maybe not too much treatment afterwards?
Complex plan, but to begin with, a sentinel node (plus another one or so) removal as day surgery, (a nuclear medicine visit first to get 'the jab' for them to trace) then a gap while that, plus the HER result come back, then because of my previous surgeries for cysts and the fact one resulted in a massive haematoma, therefore scar tissue, I will have a complete mastectomy with an implant. That will be immediately after Easter.
By finding out as much as possible beforehand, the surgeon hopes to prevent too many operations. Obviously I will then need Tamoxifen or similar, so will appreciate helpful advice about that.
But I'd be interested on anyone's 'take' on her plan. I feel reassured that she took time with me, and the BC nurse afterwards spent a good while too.
Hugs xxx
The younger ones have been planning tonight’s night shift, and I think they will be doing it in pairs as I suspect it was a bit lonely especially in the wee small hours, plus it spares one to get drinks and make any phone calls needed. They are all still insistent that I sleep, but I will be in earshot if needed. And I will insist they get a sleep at some stage tomorrow too. Thank goodness for a bread machine as it’s working wonders! We’ve almost gone through 2 loaves already!
Hubs is a bit bubbly mostly in lower throat but summons up energy to cough a bit to clear it, the hospice are reluctant to add a medication to dry secretions too soon as it might be distressing for him.
Im aware that I am really emotional still but that some of my mourning has been going on for months. This afternoon we took it in turns to get out for a short walk each, mine was to the chemist for the Oxycodone injection meds.
Hugs xxx
Moomy
I'm finding it sad just reading what you say. Lots of love to every one of you.
It is sad but it’s also a privilege to look after someone who has been my rock and my best friend for 52 years. I will always love him and the wonderful times we’ve had together.
Hugs xxx
Moomy
Beautifully expressed. So true. This makes me think about how I feel about my own relationship. We went for a walk again today and this time I didn't have any aches and pains or fall over (just a little slip..). It was very muddy. Found many early holly berries in the sunshine, whereas last year there were hardly any berries anywhere.
What fine young folks moomy. They are a tribute to you both. They know that you’ve been shouldering the bulk of the care for months and particularly these last few weeks. It will do you so much good to have more rest, even if you don’t sleep the whole time. And, being you, I’m sure you’ll make sure they have breaks tomorrow. Wishing you all as peaceful a night as possible, glad the medical team seem to be keeping on top of his symptoms as they arise. Lots of love and hugs, HFxxxx
Interesting you’ve seen lots of berries, Venicelagoon, country folk would insist that means a cold winter is on the way? I too have seen rose hips in abundance when I looked (much earlier as I haven’t walked for pleasure now for a good few weeks)
I hope not as I don’t fancy dealing with it!
Hugs xxx
Moomy
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