Secondary Brain Cancer

FormerMember
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Hi All

My mum is in the final stages of secondary brain cancer, they have now reduced her steroids from 4mg to 2mg, I would just like to know how much time I may have left with her before she passes away. 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi,

    I am so sorry to hear this.  I lost my dad in March of this year...lung cancer that spread to the brain.  I don't think anyone can tell you how much time she has left.  My dad went into hospice and passed away a week after.  The last 2-3 days he was breathing but not conscious...From my experience, I would say to tell your mum everything you want to say and hug, hold her, etc all now so you have no regrets.  You wont know when she will lose consciousness or if she will....its just so hard to know.  My dad went downhill fast...all of a sudden he lost mobility from all the brain mets, he started hallucinating and I read that was a sign...he had slept for 3 days straight and then had this increased energy for a couple of days and then basically stopped eating and drinking.  When he was diagnosed the prognosis was 12-14 months give or take....he lost his battle at 9 months.

    I think on some level my mom who was his main caregiver knew it was nearing the end....I cant explain it, but you know when people ask how will they know how to put their pet down, and everyone always says, oh you just know...(I don't mean to compare the two like that, but its the only way I know how to try and explain it) well I think my mom just knew so I had taken time off work to be there with them at the end.

    Having just gone through this, just be there for your mum and like I said, say and do everything you feel you want to because you don't want any regrets and let her say what she has to if she feels like it....of course I have regrets (not that I should) but I think its just normal to second guess everything you say/do.  If she is still able to do things like walk, etc..I would ask her if there is any thing she would like to do or anywhere she would like to go etc.  Just make it all about her...that's what we did.

    Again, I am so sorry you are going through this...its so hard to lose a parent.

    Hugs,

    Michelle