Strange behaviour

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Hi, my brother has a brain tumour. He’s doing so well and he’s being called a long term survivor. While this is great I’m looking for advice on how to deal with a new development which is inappropriate sexual behaviour. Family members feel assaulted when he touches their breasts. His wife says nothing and that isn’t helping. Sisters daughters and nieces are worried about being near him. As a teacher I would report this to safeguarding right away to protect women and girls. What to do! He was never predatory in his life so it’s all coming from the impact of the rumour. Thoughts please anyone. 

  • Well, is there a reason your brother ( and his wife ) cannot be away from the sister's daughters or any other girls and women he may feel inclined to tough their breasts? Without further information I would say that just like dementia, alzheimers, stroke and a myriad other diseases, the afflicted person requires continuous support, for example changing his diapers, or feeding him, or dressing him, and he may need to be away from other people if the situation demands it. I mean you talk about reporting this to safeguarding, you would report a sick person for ... being sick?! I remember my grandmother suffered from dementia, after she visited the bathroom we had to clean sh*t from light switches, door handles, it was like a war zone, but it did not occur to me to report my poor grandma or my poor mother to social services.

  • HI Caoimhe101

    oh that's a challenging situation to manage.  Keeping everyone safe has to be a key priority here.

    Brain tumours can alter people's personality and can also lead to dementia like symptoms. Has this change in behaviour been reported to his medical team? If not, that would be my first port of call. 

    I found these links that may give a bit more background

    Coping with changes after brain tumour treatment | Macmillan Cancer Support

    Brain tumour personality changes | The Brain Tumour Charity

    I hope you manage to get a better balance for everyone's sake.

    love n hugs

    Wee Me xx

    Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm