Bowel cancer CARERS, FAMILY & FRIENDS chat

Oh Vicky, I am so sorry to hear this. I know what you mean about the rattle. We were all with my dad as he passed and for the last 10 minutes it gradually got further apart until it stopped.

My thoughts are with you. Take care xx

O so sorry Vicky I really l feel for you my deepest sympathy to you and your family

Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts. Going to try to head off to bed now and maybe try and sleep. Goodnight All.

Hi Kleigh!

Yes I experienced that with my own dad too. He actually went in a hospice and this is how I just knew he wasn't going to last that much longer. If he didn't go tonight, he may not have seen out the weekend. 

xx

So very sorry to read this Vicky - thinking of you and sending hugs x

Dear Vicky. I am so so sad for you and your family. There are no words of comfort for you.  He is at peace.  Lean on all of us for any comfort you can get. Sending you huge hugs and love to you and all your family. One day at a time as Helen knows only too well.  With all my love Maggie xx

Vicky I have only just had chance to read your news i am so so sorry did not expect that so quick gosh Vicky what can I say wish I could give you a hug the next few days and weeks are going to be a blur but we are here for you I feel like I have lost someone again just like helen my heart breaks for you sending my best wishes xx

Just jumping in here. Vicky, I have followed your story for months hoping that it wouldn't turn out like this. I was in your position nearly a year ago now. You will find that everyone from hospital staff, undertakers, bank managers are all very helpful and understanding. They will guide you through it all, and gradually things will get better. I can't believe I'm about to go on my 3rd weekend away in a row!! Never went anywhere last year. Thinking of you. xx

Bless you all at this sad time Vicky.

sorry to read of your sad news , at moment it was all feel surreal , take comfort in the blessings of your family & friends xx

Thanks so much again everyone for your kind thoughts. Yes it does feel so surreal at this time SG not happening and its happening to someone else but its not its me this time. He fought so hard until the bitter end for almost two years but this beast of a cancer just decided it wasn't letting him go this time that partnered with his continuous bouts of sepsis and the two more or less got together and took him. Just around this time last year he found out his cancer had returned but didn't think that one year on he would be gone It is just so cruel and unfair for someone who worked like a trojan for 50 odd years to be denied his retirement and be able to relax and enjoy his later years in comfort. Did manage to get some sleep but then was awake at 2a.m. waching Corrie on catch up of all things. I just do not know where to start what do I do? Do I start clearing stuff letting authorities know or just sit here still trying to process what is going on and just letting it sink in. The first thing I need to do is to get rid of his walking aids His rolator which he never got to use and his walking frame, bed rails and back support and shower seat. He also got a wheelchair that has never been used either and is lying in the boot of our car. So these will all be the first to go I think as they can get recycled back into the community for someone else to use. I will come back and speak later. Thanks again everyone. 

Vicky x