Can we get married sooner?

FormerMember over 4 years ago

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Hello all,

i am new to this page and it’s definitely not where I expected to be! My fiancé has been diagnosed with stage 2 colon cancer. We are seeing the oncologist next Tuesday to discuss his plan. We have been together since our early 20’s (14 years of bliss). We got engaged in October 2019 s and we were due to get married in May 2020 but COVID happened and we luckily moved our date to May 2021. Due to all the uncertainty at the start of the year and being oblivious to this cancer we postponed again to November 2021. Now fast forward to today and soo many emotions are running through my head, mostly about making sure he will be 100% again but naturally I am thinking about starting a family (which we wanted to do when we got married). The other thing I am thinking about is do we get married ASAP and has anyone gone through this process and give me any words of wisdom! I just want to do it in the registry office and hopefully claim what I can on the wedding insurance, so we can focus on treatment. My other half of my brain is saying just keep it for now until we get more answers and maybe it will be a nice distraction at the end of all this treatment to look forward to our wedding day again! I know it’s essentially our decision but I just need guidance if anyone has been through something similar and what they did?

thank you and much love x

seaspirit44 over 4 years ago

, so sorry you have had these postponements through covid, and now your fiancé’s diagnosis. In your situation I would get married ASAP in registry office, so that you can support each other through the treatment., then celebrate together when you are through the other side.
I have had breast and bowed cancer and am in remission from both. Just before our wedding I found a lump in my mastectomy scar, had it biopsies, but did not get the result until after the wedding. Fortunately I was It was OK, but we did not let the anxiety spoil our day which was lovely. This was 5 years ago. My experience is different from yours, but J empathise with your feelings, Good luck to both if you.

Onwards and flatwards (don't do hills) and keep walking if you can!

FormerMember over 4 years ago in reply to seaspirit44

seaspirit44 thank you for your message and so sorry to hear the journey you have been through. I think that’s what we are leaning towards about getting married in the registry office. We will see what the oncologist says but what we have learnt from in the last year is that plans change very quickly. We are both off work next week so we will look at contacting the hotel we were getting married in and see what they can recommend. Luckily we took out wedding insurance before COVID struck so we can claw back some money. I am feeling positive that all will work out the right way in the end. Take care and I really appreciate your help x

Kareno62 over 4 years ago

Hi - replied on your other post x

community.macmillan.org.uk/.../can-we-get-married-sooner

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FormerMember over 4 years ago in reply to Kareno62

Kareno62 thank you soo much for your response. Trying to get to grips with this group posting didn’t see it post the first time so reposted. Silly me x