My partner doesn’t want treatment

Paige I’m so sorry you and your partner are having to face this. 
Everyone’s journey is different but please give him time to come to terms with his diagnosis, just hold him.

But when it sinks in I’m sure the thought of treatment won’t be so daunting and the desire to see your son grow up will win.

If it helps I had stage 4a bowel cancer diagnosed 3 years ago… 1 op to remove the tumour, a stoma creation, 2 liver resections and various chemotherapy courses later I’m in total remission. I’m back working full time, have met the love of my life and live for today. 

He can fight this and win, and he’ll see that soon, it’s overwhelming at first. Hang in there and trust the doctors, and everyone else involved in care and treatment, they are all wonderful and will look after you both through every step.

I sincerely wish you both all the best.

Thankyou soo soo much for this advice, it’s really helped me. I am trying to put myself in his situation and imagine what he must be feeling, but honestly, I can’t imagine it, it must be beyond terrifying. I am hoping he will change his mind and decide to have treatment to see our son grow up like you said. And a massive congratulations to you for being in remission and meeting your soulmate, I’m soo soo happy for you. I wish you a happy healthy life and all the best too. 

Click on my name and you will be able to read a personal summary of my treatments to remove a 13cm colorectal tumour. It takes a while to get there but the people who worked to restore my health were first-class. Five years after the initial diagnosis I'm still here and enjoying life very much indeed. Try to keep busy and don't mope or worry about matters over which you have no control (easy to say but it is true). We all understand that the initial diagnosis is a hammer blow but treatments have developed positively in recent years.

Any queries - just ask.

Dulac

Thankyou soo soo much Dulac. And congratulations to you for getting it removed, very happy for you. I will try my best to stay positive for my partner. 
Best wishes. 

So sorry for you and your partners news. I was diagnosed with stage 3 in January, and the first few weeks I was very numb and took my time to get my head around it, including how I felt about the idea of treatment, surgery etc. I spent a lot of that time also feeling how unfair the whole thing felt.

Time helps, and hopefully he'll come around to treatment. Treatment and side effects obviously varies from person to person - but to share how I've found it...

I've done 5 weeks of chemotherapy and radiotherapy, after starting treatment all my previous symptoms essentially disappeared and it was great. I did then go through probably probably 6 weeks of increasing pain - but I then recovered pretty quick, back exercising and generally doing 95% of the things I was doing pre diagnosis.

Still quite a way on the journey to go for me - but the hardest time mentally I had was at the start, the uncertainty, the waiting etc. I've got my fingers crossed for you both.

Thankyou KeenRunner. Bless your heart, I’m soo sorry you’re going through this, I’m happy you’re feeling better, And I hope you make a full recovery from this horrible disease, I’ve got my fingers crossed for you too! All this advice I’m getting is really helping, and I couldn’t be more grateful for it, Hopefully with patience and thinking deeply, He’ll change his mind and decide to go for treatment.