Where I am right now

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Hi.  I’m new here. For the past week or so I’ve been watching and reading the chat here the support and general uplifting of others tat I’ve witnessed in messages back and forth. Has brought here today.  Right now.  Because I know I’m meat to be  here posting this rigt now

maybe I just want to.  Te it all out. Type my thoughts so I read them and know I actually in that place so many of you have been in

so. Past year and a half I’ve been having pain when we ing.  Oh gosh sometimes it felt like razor blades glass general feeling crappy each time I’ve passed blood. Enough to see bright red on tissue after urinating  and to show as ready colour urine sample   I didn’t worry about the bleeding as te doctor didn’t  and then when I have cytology they tell me I haven’t had a urine sample positive for a uti since 2020 so why hasn’t the doctor ordered a test instead of antibiotics I wish I knew why  as 

each time off to the doctors.  Given antibiotics.  Maybe a month later I’d be back. Same again.  In 18months 11 uti.  Or so I thought.  I had another bad one.  Pre ing blood. Pain in back.  Lost bit of weight no appetite.  Doc treats me again with antibiotics 

but the next day rings me and says no infection. I’m sending u for urology test to rule out anything sinister. I asked why. And she said. Because I have blood I can clearly see   But no infection 

so ll with two weeks I’m here. I’ve had cytology in hospital was awake put camera in. Said found large area of concern shown me.  Lots of bleeding within the bladder wall and what looked like  

polyp I was told then I had to have a ct scan with dye. A pre op a Covid test and an operation 

ttoday was the last bit the operation 

feel a bit sore. Throat mainly. That’s from the general a aesthetic probably.  
now I wait for histology 

my sheet says primary diagnosis is bladder cancer

and now it’s a two three wk wait for results

no one has spoken to me. I just had to stay on ward until I could wee n general anesthesia had worn off 

I’ve known deep down it would be this.  And although like I say no one has told me more than a large area of concern

but this paper sheet says primary diagnosis bladder cancer

and that a cold cup biopsy to red patches x2 posterior wall looks more suspicious than dome

sorry for wittering on

and breathe.  Feel better just because I’ve off loaded to someone. So if you read this. Thank you very much and hope you are well xxx

  • Hi and welcome to the group. Witter away. We understand and know how you must be feeling at the moment. We have been there. Firstly, be aware that bladder cancer can be treated successfully in most cases. Your throat will be sore because you would have had a breathing tube in. It should get better in a few days. They would have taken biopsies and the results will determine the next step. The waiting for results is something we all get anxious about. Ladies in particular are often diagnosed late because of of the lady problems being considered first, so you are not on your own there. Lots of support here, so ask anything you like, or just have a chat. Best wishes.

    Best wishes to All,   rily.

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  • Aww thank you so much xx I feel lighter by just talking as apart from my boyfriend and best mate I’ve spoken to no one and I don’t want to upset them.   I have two kids teenager and older.  For obvious reasons I don’t want them to worry.  But I want to be able to prepare myself mentally if you like. So that if needed I will be able to face it and my family with courage n not fear xxx so thanks rly xxxxxx

  • Hi again . Telling friends and family early on can be difficult. Just the word cancer can frighten people and they don't know what to say. I found once I broke the ice, I was open and honest with everyone regarding my treatment. This made people more comfortable talking about it. I have teenage grandchildren and their mum's explained things to them. Kids are more savvy than we give them credit for and they gave me great support. I always used a bit of humour with the young ones. Early days, and it can be a bit of a slog, but you are in the system and you will be well looked after.  Late evening now, but I am sure others will be along to show support as you go forward.  Best wishes.

    Best wishes to All,   rily.

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  • Hi Barbra51,Welcome to this friendly supportive group.I hope you find it helpful.Best wishes Jane x

  • Hi Barbra 51 I am also relatively new to the group so I get that it helps to talk to people in similar circumstances. I go on Thursday to urology unit and I presume I will get the results of my biopsy, the waiting is hard and   my kids , ( all grown ups) have been so supportive and that’s great , but it does help to know that there are others out there in very similar circumstances and some in a worse situation than me that tell you of their journey and put things into prospective. I’m so glad I joined the group as I’m sure you will be too.best wishes Nelbell x

  • Thanks winker feel like I’m in the right place here and it really does help to speak out xx

  • I hope your results are as positive as can be.  At what stage have you told your kids.   I’ve not told any family yet.  Xx I lost my mum to kidney cancer in June and mums always first port of call.  So joining this group is such a help.  As I’ve only been with my boyfriend a year n half he’s gone through all this with my mum. And now I’m putting this on him.  Hence I don’t want the worry on anyone else.  But my son is late twenties.  And I feel I should tell him but don’t want him worrying like me till results come xx

  • Just saying Hi Barbra51 and welcome to the group. your boyfriend is welcome too if he would like, I am the wife of the person with bc and find the group amazing. Don't forget you  and he can also always call the MacMillan Helpline 0808 808 0000 8am to 8pm every day.

    They have leaflets they can send out or you can read online I believe about telling family.

    Denby

  • Hi barbra51 one of my girls is a final year paramedic student ( mature) so when I found blood in my urine she rang drs for me and made appointment so it started from there thinking I had an infection or even stones so it came as a shock after when they eventually found tumour but I’m glad I told them as soon as I knew so they were prepared to deal with whatever comes along . I felt it was better they knew and we are all dealing with it together which I find a great comfort really , I’m sure your partner will be there every step of the way with you and only you know when it’s the right time to tell your son but is there ever a right time , I hope everything goes as well as it can for you but there is always someone on here to talk to , best wishes  Nelbell