Where I am right now

FormerMember
FormerMember
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Hi.  I’m new here. For the past week or so I’ve been watching and reading the chat here the support and general uplifting of others tat I’ve witnessed in messages back and forth. Has brought here today.  Right now.  Because I know I’m meat to be  here posting this rigt now

maybe I just want to.  Te it all out. Type my thoughts so I read them and know I actually in that place so many of you have been in

so. Past year and a half I’ve been having pain when we ing.  Oh gosh sometimes it felt like razor blades glass general feeling crappy each time I’ve passed blood. Enough to see bright red on tissue after urinating  and to show as ready colour urine sample   I didn’t worry about the bleeding as te doctor didn’t  and then when I have cytology they tell me I haven’t had a urine sample positive for a uti since 2020 so why hasn’t the doctor ordered a test instead of antibiotics I wish I knew why  as 

each time off to the doctors.  Given antibiotics.  Maybe a month later I’d be back. Same again.  In 18months 11 uti.  Or so I thought.  I had another bad one.  Pre ing blood. Pain in back.  Lost bit of weight no appetite.  Doc treats me again with antibiotics 

but the next day rings me and says no infection. I’m sending u for urology test to rule out anything sinister. I asked why. And she said. Because I have blood I can clearly see   But no infection 

so ll with two weeks I’m here. I’ve had cytology in hospital was awake put camera in. Said found large area of concern shown me.  Lots of bleeding within the bladder wall and what looked like  

polyp I was told then I had to have a ct scan with dye. A pre op a Covid test and an operation 

ttoday was the last bit the operation 

feel a bit sore. Throat mainly. That’s from the general a aesthetic probably.  
now I wait for histology 

my sheet says primary diagnosis is bladder cancer

and now it’s a two three wk wait for results

no one has spoken to me. I just had to stay on ward until I could wee n general anesthesia had worn off 

I’ve known deep down it would be this.  And although like I say no one has told me more than a large area of concern

but this paper sheet says primary diagnosis bladder cancer

and that a cold cup biopsy to red patches x2 posterior wall looks more suspicious than dome

sorry for wittering on

and breathe.  Feel better just because I’ve off loaded to someone. So if you read this. Thank you very much and hope you are well xxx

  • Hi

    It's an awful lot take in and initial diagnosis is always daunting. I was diagnosed five years ago and the first few weeks are the worst, especially waiting for results and wondering what treatment options you'll be offered.  I was lucky because when the antibiotics didn't seem to work, my doctor had me being checked out in a matter of days.

    As mentioned by other good people on here most types of bladder cancer are successfully treated. In the meantime, try and do something positive to keep your mind off things and above all, don't be scared to talk about it. There are plenty of people on here prepared to listen and awnser questions if they can, don't be a stranger

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Ianw

    It’s so re assuring just knowing someone is there listening.  I’m just cracking jokes and tryin to stay upbeat.  But silently it’s killing me. Since biopsy I was ok that was Monday. But today I’ve got pain lower left of tiny real low down and heat around left bottom of back.   Feel like it’s Lea if. Like they bust a all of hers n it’s leaking. Te waiting is the worse.  Do you think I should be concerned with this pain it’s like short sharp stabbing pain.   Sorry to ask xx

  • Hi . People report all sorts of random pains and aches following a TURBT procedure. In most cases it is residual pain from the op, but in other cases it is everyday aches and pains which we overthink, and think the cancer is spreading. It is usual to think this way. The waiting is always the worst time. Once you get results and a treatment plan, things tend to ease as you have something positive to focus on. If the pain does not ease or get worse, then give your team a ring for advice. The downside of covid is that pre covid we were all allocated a specialist nurse we could contact with concerns. Unfortunately these CNS nurses were reallocated to other duties. Best wishes.

    Best wishes to All,   rily.

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  • I agree with rily, we do tend to over think after procedures. If it doesn't ease you could try talking to of the Nurses online. I have allocated Nurses at the Hospital, but I have used the online Macmillan Nurses, especially outside normal working hours. Very helpful and very understanding.

    PS: no need to say sorry, it's a worrying time.

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    FormerMember in reply to rily

    It’s crazy how our minds just run away with paranoid thoughts.  I think it’s because every where I read. People tend to get help see a doctor after one or two episodes of bleeding.  It’s been 18 months I’ve been bleeding n having suspected uti.  But no positive uti since 2020 so I’m seriously worrying constantly that it’s going to be advanced 

    I’m going to try and just relax.  But it’s so hard to switch off.   really appreciate all of your responses xxx

  • Hey, it's not crazy, it's very normal, don't be so hard on yourself.

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  • Hi Barbara51, maybe you would find it easier rather than  trying to 'switch off' to 'switch' you focus to some absorbing activity to distract yourself. Also getting out in the fresh air helps most of us calm down and get some perspective.Relaxed

    Denby