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I'm Kidney Been - I eventually found my way here from the general forum for newcomers. Learning how the web site works is a little challenging, but I'm getting the hang of it I hope! My thanks to those of you who have responded to my posts etc on there. Some of you are also on this more focussed forum for BC victims.

I will have a browse through the various threads, which will no doubt give me more of an insight into the subject and how it affects us etc. I think it is good to be able to talk anonymously to others in the same or similar position. I am trying to get used to the idea, of what is going to happen to my body shortly, with Radical Cystectomy and Urostomy due 11/01/22.

At least I should be completely out of it during the procedure, The last treatment was a TURBT done with an epidural, so it was really weird to be wide awake, while they were doing whatever to me from the other end of the table! Unfortunately, the tumour had invaded the bladder wall and muscle, so complete removal is the only realistic option.

I would have liked the next stage to proceed sooner, as I find the waiting quite hard, wondering whether it could spread somewhere else, as latest problem must have come from the original tumour in a kidney, removed nearly a year ago. Hence my user name, a kidney been removed! 

  • Hi and welcome to the group. Glad you have found us. Lots of support here both practical and emotional. We know how you must be feeling at the moment. The waiting is something we never get used to. Feel free to browse the threads and join in if you want. Most members have their stories in their profiles. You can see this by clicking on a members name or avatar. I hop all goes well for you. I went a different route to you so no help with RC.  Best wishes.

    Best wishes to All,   rily.

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  • Hi, there are quite a few thread going on with talk about the op, so you may well be able to read those to find out more. I had RC 10 years, ago but I suspect not a lot has changed since then! 

    Happy to answer any questions as best I can. Hope all goes well for you.

  • Hi KidneyBeen,I’m glad you have found your way over here.As I mentioned on the other board there are one or two golf lovers here so you will be in good company.I hope you find this group helpful,there is plenty of advice and support here.Best wishes Jane 

  • Thanks for your welcome to the group - Rily, Teasswill and Winkers60. I see that some of the threads go back a couple of years, so I've got a lot of catching up to do. Still it will help to pass the time, whilst I await the surgeons scalpel. Just hope that the robot has had it's regular maintenance.

    KidneyBeen

  • The robot is amazing.I remember watching a clip of one unpeeling a grape.My cystectomy started off robotically but ended up with an abdominal incision as well due to the tumour being so bulky.It is remarkable what can be done these days.Will you have to travel far for the surgery ? Jane

  • Live in outer NW London, with op at Charing X, so not too far to go.

    My 2 boys (adults now, with their own children) insist that I don't use the underground, so take it in turns to ferry me + Mrs back and forth for appointments etc. Really good to have such support, makes that aspect of it so much better.

    KidneyBeen

  • I have found the profile section and added my tale of woe! Like her majesty the Queen, a while back, it has been an annus horribilis for me, and still got more to endure, before hopefully it's finally over!

    KidneyBeen

  • Support will be so helpful.My support is my disabled partner John & my sister Sarah.I had the cystectomy in Bristol over 40 miles away.I can’t drive and that has never been a problem until I moved here.John has a rare muscle disease and ulcerative colitis so is ill a lot of the time.My sister lives a few miles away but works.I have friends but none live close by apart from my friend with M.S who is in a wheelchair.We had a good support network when we first moved here but some people moved,and the rest have died.I hope once this pandemic is easier I can join something and make some new friends.I cared for my disabled mother for nearly 16 years which meant I couldn’t get out and meet new people.Best wishes Jane

  • Give it a few months and you should be back out on the golf course.I’m sorry you have had a rotten time.

  • I'm lucky in that my loving wife of 40 years, was an SRN at St. Bartholomew's Hospital in London. So I have her expertise, gained from intensive care nursing, to help make me as comfortable as possible, when recovering after any invasive procedures. 

    We met in a badminton club, while I was actually working as a Hospital Engineer, but not at Barts! 

    KidneyBeen