My beloved mother in law has very aggressive bladder cancer and has spread horribly ( still waiting to hear full extent ) this is the 3rd bout of cancer she has had and is finding it hard to even think about fighting it , on the 28th hopefully we will find out more but it just seems so cruel 3 times 3 bloody times .
I don’t know what to say to her I’m fighting back tears around my two young kids as they don’t need to know right know my husband is crumbling she was a single mum /dad/everything to him , and I feel so selfish because I keep thinking back to when I was 14 and lost my mum to a very aggressive cancer , what do I do ? how do I tell my kids ?how do I support my amazing husband who in fact is my carer at the moment to my bad health problems ?
I have been having such a hard time with my health and he keeps telling me that my chronic pain don’t just stop because of this but I just feel horrible at the moment what gives me the right to complain about pain when this amazing selfless person is going through this . I’m sorry to ramble I just feel so helpless.
Hello and welcome to the group. Sorry to hear about your mother in law. I t must be really difficult for the family, especially as she has had cancer before. We know that any cancer diagnosis can have far reaching effects on family and friends. You are certainly not selfish and being here to express your feelings shows that. When you get more information and what treatment may be planned can sometimes help, because when treatments starts, it gives a focus. Hopefully, you will get some support and advice here from others in similar situations. Best wishes.
