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my mother-in-law has stage four bladder cancer has spread to her stomach and lymph nodes she also suffers with colitis and has a lot of bowel problems because of the medication.
she’s previously had chemotherapy followed by radiotherapy and most recently was having immuno therapy.
The immuno therapy has been paused for the moment due to a antibiotic resistant water infection, that has now left her incontinent.
The doctor said if the immuno therapy didn’t work as she would have maybe a year or two but that they were very hopeful that the immuno therapy would have a delayed affect and we are still waiting for her next scan in two weeks to see how far it has spread and whether the therapy is working.
my husband and his family are very private people and they don’t seek outside help other than very few close friends and each other I am trying to sensitively broach the subject of how MacMillan nurses can help however I’m not sure they’re ready for that talk yet.
I don’t want to come across as pushy however I think mentally they really need to start dealing with the fact that we will eventually lose her and we need to start to prepare not only ourselves but her there are three young children in the family that are keeping her going at the moment but as she gets worse we obviously want to protect the children so they don’t see her in pain.
I am desperate for some advice on how to help my husband my mother-in-law and the family of how to deal with this as I seem to be the only realist in the family at the moment and everything is being put on my husbands shoulders as my father-in-law really doesn’t deal with emotions well. not only am I worried for my mother-in-law but my husband too.
everybody has a breaking point and I’m scared he’s going to hit his.
places if anything anyone has been through something similar I’m desperate for help.
Thank you so much in advance xx
