First Chemotherapy

Hi Coojee,Glad to hear you don’t have to drive to your appointment.I hope it goes well.Jane x

It really upset my wife. It was confirmed that I will have my bladder removed.

Hi Coojee, as others have said, I really don't think they would suggest surgery if they didn't believe it would have a good outcome. They obviously think they can help you. So if I was in your wife's position I'd see this as decision as positive, though I truly understand how frightening all this is for you both. I hope you can now get some peace and relaxation over the next few days. Building up your stamina and fitness is important prior to surgery. Sending love x

Thank you. I have explained this to her. But she is worried I could die in the operation & also our future plans for our life in Scotland would be ruined.

Hi Coojee,

We are all very worried, whether it is us having the cancer, or a relative or spouse ... Everybody reacts in a different way. I have heard this from many people going through what you are: "Sometimes it is us with the cancer that have to be strong for those around us". Obviously your wife loves you very much and she worries a lot... 

Thank you for your kind words.