First Chemotherapy

Thank you Luce.

She had another episode this evening. She told me she wanted to kill herself. I managed to call the Mac helpline & cc convinced her to speak to them. She calmed a little afterwards but told be the helpline didn't help her. she has some depression pills ftom the gp which she's not taken yet. I will try to get her to take one tonight.

We're just praying your wife agrees to try the depression tablets, and that they are the right ones for her.

You may be aware that, which is tough, many take several weeks to reach effectiveness, and some even cause the person to feel a bit worse before they then do get the benefit. Only the pack leaflet will tell [or read it online if you know what they are but can't get at the pack...]. If by any chance she could be zinc deficient that would definitely need sorting too, as low zinc is strongly linked with low mood. [Cheap tablets, any make as long as ingredient is not zinc oxide, best taken with Vitamin C, don't take with a wheat fibre meal]. Anyone starting a supplement ought to check with their pharmacist for suitability.

Sorry for all the technical stuff but unfortunately it is not something most doctors are trained to check for, and I didn't know if you were in with your wife when the anti-depressants were prescribed or not.

With ongoing supportive thoughts,

Denby

Hi Coojee,This must be such a worry for you,do you know why your wife is so reluctant to accept help ? I hope you have persuaded her to start on the anti depressants.Thinking of you both.Jane x

Thank you. I was able to convince her to take the first pill last night.

Thank you, I will look for some tablets for her. Our pharmasist is pretty useless & anyway we ae isolating.

That’s good.How are you feeling ? Jane x

Hopefully the medication will help it seems that the diagnosed person seems to accept the situation more than the partner .. my husband will go into sullen moods sometimes thinking the worse ..it makes me feel guilty for having this unwanted illness ..I know it must be hard for them I often wonder how I would cope if he had been diagnosed ... I try to keep positive and try to make the most of life ..so many of my friends and family have passed and I miss them all but always try to remember our good times ...please take care of yourself and I really hope your wife will be able to deal with things x sending you best wishes  love Tina 

Hi Tina,My ex partner went on an alcoholic bender and fell down stairs on learning I had cancer.When he wrote and told me I wished I’d never said anything I worried so much.Love Jane x

I am fatigued today. I have the first meeting with my urology consultant who has agreed to do this by telephone instead. I can really drive 120 miles today.